tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-85965555609909827352024-02-02T02:29:10.625-08:00Lee Tian's Space ... 悠悠恬园天大地大,我只不过是俗世中微不足道的尘埃,深一深呼吸,什么都没了。天地之大,有那么多新鲜事待我去发掘,风吹一吹,把我吹向他处了。leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.comBlogger78125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-24074120435199524572012-08-20T18:47:00.000-07:002012-08-20T18:47:06.128-07:00那份无可取代性我不知道爱情算不算是人生伟大的目的之一,当然有哲学家称作如是。而纵观世间上痴男怨女多的是,爱情也总是电视剧里不朽的主题,在音乐里屡唱不衰的题材,纵然人人对爱情谈论得多了,人们对之的疑惑也不少。身边的朋友有的在爱的路上如鱼得水,有的为情所困。有人不懂何谓真爱,那我问问自己,什么是爱情呢,那就要讨论它的独特性,它和友情、亲情的不同。<br />
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首先,友情和“多向性”的,你可以多于一个的朋友,他们是和你聊各种话题的对象,或是参加各种活动的伙伴,而亲情是天注定的,你一生下来就注定和某些人有着无法分割的血缘关系,对于他们,你是有些责任的。那么,爱情呢?它似乎包含两者—亲情和友情的成分,是后天培养的,也是先天注定的;你会用自己的努力和一个人好好久久地经营一段感情,而在千万人之中为什么是他?有如此个性的你注定被那样的他吸引着的。<br />
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你身边的人之多,凭什么就注定他是你的唯一呢?他有的,别人也可能有,他能给你的,别人也可能给。什么为之独一无二的爱?<br />
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我想了又想,若要为爱情定义,我会说,就是那份无可取代性。你的他是独一无二的,别人怎么也取代不了他。从前,你深深爱过一个人,而后来,先前爱过的,可以被遇到的某个人所取代,有没有人是无可被取代的呢?如果有,我想那是真爱了。<br />
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某个人可能并非符合你预设的择偶条件,但你看上他了,那是情感在主使的,非理智的,所以这似乎可以说是注定的,有如此外表、个性、想法的你就倾向于对这个人产生特别的情感。而后来,这份无可取代性,从长时间的相处所形成的依恋、感觉、了解而加深,这可以使一起共患难,度过人生一段难以遗忘的时光,或许是一起旅行,一起踏足世界上各个角落,相互扶持。再也不会有人给你那种感觉了,除了他,即使有,也比不上他。<br />
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这么说来,爱情算不算是一种死心眼的执着呢?如果是的话,那爱情本身藏有很多苦头,难怪很多人为之受苦。或许我是很专一的人,我比较可以看到一个人的独一无二的特质,而我们能不能够做到专注于某个人的特质,爱惜他,而不是执着呢?我想了想,受苦的,是因为执着于得到吧。<br />
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爱是什么?有些人迫切渴望被爱,那自然会很苦。真正的爱,我觉得是付出的、在凡事为对方好的前提下的自我牺牲,你的心机全在他身上,他让你有了无限宽广的包容,你可以包容他的一切,其他人没办法让你变成这样。我不觉得要有被爱才是爱,过于渴求被爱只是为了满足自己的需求、填补内心的空虚罢了,那是自私的。爱应该是无私的,因为爱着他,你愿意跳出自我的框框,凡事都以他为主。<br />
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他很特别,他也许不是最好的,但他好就好在他爱你,因为感受到他的爱意,你才会爱他,是的,前提是你爱他,你才能够感受到他的爱意,不然被爱又有何意义?仅仅乐于被爱,那充其量只不过是虚荣心作祟罢了。<br />
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谁是你那无可取代的唯一?我但愿你能找到。leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-4231483282205678852012-03-30T23:47:00.003-07:002012-03-30T23:58:58.853-07:00越走越远小时候,我从未想过我会出国,并且在外国呆那么长的时间。不过,予现在而言,这没什么稀奇吧,全球化时代的到了,人与人之间穿越国界的交流越来越频密了。<div><br /></div><div>我还是一个典型的亚洲人,至少在家庭观念方面,我知道我爸妈会想我,家人是我出走的牵挂。可是,最近妈妈打来长途电话时,我说呀,我可能出国发展,不知她会怎样吗?妈妈这次比较无所谓地说:“那你有没有伴陪你一起去啊?”</div><div><br /></div><div>她这么说还好,记得以前,她是完全不给商量余地的,总觉得我这小女儿到外国是不切实际、幼稚且令人担心的想法,爸爸也会觉得我太任性。</div><div><br /></div><div>到现在,他们越来越可以安心放任我了,我想,是这几年的我改变了他们吗?同时,我也被改变了,现在的我竟然想家了,那是生平第一次。我改变了他们的同时,我也在最后被他们对我的牵挂而改变。或许,现在的我缺乏对这里的归属感吧。</div><div><br /></div><div>可是何之为我要去的地方?我不断地寻找,也许就注定了我得离开家,得越走越远.... 我今年的旅游大计,要如愿以偿。</div>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-59722028007117777792012-03-21T21:14:00.000-07:002012-03-21T21:15:44.128-07:00归属感<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: 宋体; ">我想知道,人从呱呱坠地那一刻起,来到这个世界,这世上有什么是属于自己的呢?佛说所有东西都是身外物,可是从外在形式上来看,我们依旧努力地寻找归属感,我们需要一种得以将自己定位的东西,好比权利身份、情感依恋、才华名气,我们依照前人的文明结晶努力地延续所有得以赋予人归属感的组织团体,好比学校、工作单位、社团等等,仿佛没有这一切,人就无法在这社会上立足,找不到定位,找不到归属感。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">什么是归属感呢?就是一种倾向将自己纳属于某种事物的感情上的需要,我们都需要一些自己得以依靠的事物。没有了这一些,我们会迷惘。可是,归属感是可以强迫助长的吗?喜欢就是喜欢,不喜欢就不喜欢了,我们在这大千世界游走,有些地方我们对之产生归属感,有些则不然。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">我不知道我的想法是不是很奇怪,每每去到哪个工作单位、学校组织什么都好,我都不会有太大的归属感,偏偏他们都会先强调说我们得爱这个组织,这份爱才是受推崇的。如果我最热爱的是我的工作,是我的知识,其实何须强调个体对团体的归属感呢?我越想越糊涂了。那毕竟和恋人之爱不一样,你把心付托与他,因为你们有着生理上、精神上的互相吸引,那种爱是无需解释的。好比我对家人的归属感那般,家人和我是有着血缘关系的,想想我曾经是妈妈身体的一部分,那种归属感有怎能分割下来?</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">可想而知,要在人工建立起的组织培养起一个人对之的归属感,那该是有多难的,至少对我而言是如此,我知道对好多人而言却又不是如此。我上学,我先爱我自己因此所得来的知性享受,然后我才会爱校;我工作,我先爱自己因此而感到的自我潜能的实现,然后我才会爱我的工作,乃至工作单位。不是这样的吗?或许我的思想偏为个人主义,我确实看到大部分的人是团体大于个体,先爱学校,反正一来到学校的时候已经在潜意识上有着这种爱校的概念,自己个人的精神层面的追求倒是其次,遵从学校会给予的一切指示,主观上已是觉得这学校肯定会给予我培养。在找工作的时候亦是如此,为什么不可能是我带着我的才能来到这组织,看你能不能让我发挥我的才能?</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">我感到很困惑。可能,所有大组织背后的潜在的对大众的宣传之魔力是很大的,人们早就对这些组织建立起概念印象。一不小心之下,归属感可以是服从命令的掩饰。</span><span lang="EN-GB"><o:p></o:p></span></p>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-34253102237071562692012-03-21T21:07:00.000-07:002012-03-21T21:14:42.469-07:00什么为之强?<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: 宋体; ">文学家在念文科时表现好,那就为之强,科学家在念理科时表现好,那就为之强,在对的环境下表现,你就是强的了,可是在理科和文科之间的文理交界呢,如果没有这交界处的地带,你无处可去,那你可能不是很强的。编曲家歌唱得不好,但对乐曲编写间会让人为之动听的科学规律很有研究,所以他只有在编写曲子时才会表现好。可能你也是很强的,但试问这世界上有多少个人是各个方面都一样好的呢?有多少个人是达·分奇的?</span></p>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-14358780409974580382012-03-21T21:00:00.000-07:002012-03-21T21:07:24.250-07:00共性和个性<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"> </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">我们看着对方,肤色为黑的、褐的、黄的、白的,身形体高不一样,可是有没有想过,外星人看着我们,倒是会发现我们全是一个样的?正如我们需要动物学家很费劲才能区分不同种类的猫那样。</span><span lang="EN-GB"><o:p></o:p></span></p>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-55298786409658150252012-03-11T00:21:00.003-08:002012-03-11T00:47:47.207-08:00短短一截人生路<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: 宋体; ">从</span><span lang="EN-GB">2008</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: 宋体; ">年</span><span lang="EN-GB">5</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: 宋体; ">月毕业至今,短短四年期间,没想到我已跨过了不同的国度,做过不同的工作,碰到形形色色的人,发生在我身上的故事也一样精彩,我想,每个人都有属于自己的际遇吧。未来,往往都是预想不到的,却又让人满心期待的。我想我是个乐观的人吧,因此我用“期待”一词,而非“忧虑”。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">一直有想过抽出时间,把过去的经历痛痛快快写出来,给过去一个记录,给未来一个借鉴,给自我发展一个交代,就像老师教的学历史的价值那般,社会、全人类、国家都有历史,卑微至个人也有历史啊。可是很多时候,记录在我博客的只是零零碎碎的事情片段,很多时候也往往局限于某个主题,比如旅游啊,仿佛旅游才是我那按部就班工作之下唯一的心灵慰藉。现在想想,其实我的事业也是人生的主题之一,可能在求职所用的履历表当中记录得太多了,就不应该用笔墨款待这些世俗人所重视的事业之事。事业,还不是为挣钱、为生计的管道,虽是对自我潜能的一种实现,但在庸庸碌碌的职场里,为了生存,你得屈服于整个社会环境的不成文的规范,即便是不符合你价值观的。换言之,有时我们被迫需要做一些自己不喜欢的工作。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">现在是</span><span lang="EN-GB">2012</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">年了。我想,我长大了些许,走过的路多了,我才知道,没什么路子是完美的、全符人意的,鱼与熊掌不能兼得就是这个道理,要么就离开寻求更好的出路,要么处于当下的我们就看重好的一面、特意忽视不好的一面,那就不会有太多的不满了。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">是的。</span><span lang="EN-GB">2008</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">年</span><span lang="EN-GB">5</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">月心理学毕业,我还是一个满怀大志的好青年,想着为社会服务,解救社会上的边缘人物。我很怕闷的,找工作不是一朝一夕的事,所以任何社会服务、教育的工作都找。第一份工作是吉隆玻一件著名独中的英语老师,本来我是应征辅导员一职的,后来校长说学校缺的是英语老师,结果我就成了英语老师。短短几个月而已,我就离开了,因为收到新加玻的几间我更为属意的公司的面试邀请。我想我是卑微的只拥有马来西亚一间大学文凭的毕业生,新加玻好歹是国际化的都市,给我的行业也是和心理学有直接关系的,想当然尔,我几经辛苦都愿意去那儿工作,而且,在那儿工作,我看到的是个人专业发展的机会,是的,公司会提供培训,我就得以</span><span lang="EN-GB">upgrade</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">自己的。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">可能看重我不辞劳苦地坐好几个小时火车远赴他国的能耐吧,我最终得到那份工作了。据说面试分两次,第一次过后刷了一些人,基本上被邀请进入第二环节面试的就有很大机会得到那份工作了,第二环节的就刷剩两个候选人而已。想当年,我两次从吉隆玻往返新加玻,厚着脸皮从那独中教务处那儿请假。第二次面试的时候见的是大老板,哎,表现不太好,说话不流利,竟被嘴刁的后来的上司质疑我的英语,好在后来他们回顾,说会选我,是因为看在我诚恳啊。是的,我很会表现得诚恳的,其实我一直觉得我挺“真”的。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">第一份教师的工作只持续了两个月多,而接下来就是我的第二份工作了,是至今做得最久的工作,哈哈!比起很多人,这所谓的“久”,才不过</span><span lang="EN-GB">1</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">年又三个月左右。</span><span lang="EN-GB"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">这我至今做得最久的工作,现在想想,不失为宝贵的工作经验。想想当初的我是菜鸟一名,懵懵懂懂的,善良得好欺负。我那时专门接失学儿童的个案,和学校、教育部、案主家庭、儿童本身各方面着手去引导案例的儿童回到校园,接受应享有的义务教育,还有也着手于一些为儿童谋取福利的方案,包括让儿童得以探望身陷牢狱的双亲的活动、去学校巡回宣传性侵犯意识的活动。曾经有接过一些让人印象深刻的案件,关于失学儿童的,我只能说,错就错在于该儿童不适合新加玻这种教育制度,过多对他在学术上的要求反倒是残酷的。曾经,我也到过新国那位于</span><span lang="EN-GB">Buona Vista</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">高高在上的教育部那儿和高观面谈(想起来真有点不可思议,我那么平凡,其实也向往平凡,最好可以减少和有名有权的人接触)。工作一年多了,我真的觉得我的价值观各方面和当下的社会格格不入,我也厌恶那种时时刻刻得向上司汇报、事事得详细记录清楚、过多的会议等的那种办公室生活,虽然我常出去做家访,可是我依旧得想上司报告,那些需要写的冗长的书面报告,实在很烦的。我也必须达到公司定下的工作目标,只有一个,就是尽可能让孩子返回学校,要催促他们。有时候,我不觉得逼他们重返校园就会确保他们身心健全,而且我真的不喜欢用如此强硬态度要求他们做一些我们双方仍未达成共识的事。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">因此我辞职了,去了纽西兰寻找另一片天地,在新加玻的时候早就朝思暮想了,天天倒数着那一天的到来。纽西兰的生活很精彩,做过的工作,就不多说了,我早前的</span><span lang="EN-GB">blog</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">用着如此大篇幅描写好多好多当时的点点滴滴。採蓝莓、挤牛奶、农场换宿、青年旅舍换宿、当</span><span lang="EN-GB">fine dining</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">餐厅的侍应生、酒店的清洁工,种种杂又偏的工作,我都愿意试,认识的人也是各式各样的。不明白的人会说我傻,好好一份专业工作不做,跑去做那些卑微的工作,实在是浪费!他们不知道的,至少我不对那所谓的专业那么执着,至少我有勇气放下一些,换作不同的人生体验,须知,职业不分贵贱的。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">边打工边玩着玩着又是另一个六月了。</span><span lang="EN-GB">2010</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">年</span><span lang="EN-GB">6</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">月,又回到新加玻工作,这份工作是肃毒中心的辅导员,得常常往返监狱接触毒友,嗯,也是一种见识,他们也没什么,也是人,是社会歧视他们罢了。其实这工作挺好的,只是,我渴望远行、背包旅行的心大过一切,小小的新加玻也确实太闷了,除了工作,没生活可言。只是那时和我一起相依为命的那位被自家人遗弃的屋主老太太很令人印象深刻,我现在还惦记着她。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">那时很想去中国看看,生活一段日子,就提前申请去中国留学了。很奇怪吧,本科念的以英语为媒介,在新加玻的工作环境以英语为主,现在又转念中文的东西,这种转折多少意味着我和心理学脱离了些许。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB">2011</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">年初,我决定回马来西亚生活了,找到的那份工作是布城的一间国际学校的中文助教,我在那儿当了廉价劳工,在新加玻时享有的高薪、好福利全没了。驰骋职场的人往上爬,我却向下滑,无所谓,我在马来西亚有的是生活的品质,无所谓,我最终想到中国念书或教书,当个中文助教,又有如此和鬼佬接触的环境,我可以仅仅把这份工作当作跳板啊。坦白说,我还真挺喜欢鬼佬的教育方式的。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">后来,我如愿得到中国政府提供的全免奖学金,还给了我免住宿、每月津贴,我简直一毛都不必花,哈!</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">来中国以前,我是以陆地交通的方式一路从老挝玩上去北京的,很任性地瞒着我父母家人做这种事,我想,有生之年,我得有一次诸如此类的壮举。一路上的所见所闻,是我毕生难忘的,穿越时空的旅程,带给我的是一夜成长,其实,我也开始对时空概念产生困惑。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">现在,不知不觉,我在北京大学以过了</span><span lang="EN-GB">8</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">个月,哎,时间就这么过了。我的未来在何方?我只是想来中国游遍大江南北,只是想未来当个</span><span lang="EN-GB">travelling teacher, </span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">像鬼佬那样边教语言边旅游。我但愿如此。浑浑噩噩地,又过了一天又一天。当初我可以很潇洒地丢开那些和心理学有关的行业,然而现在呢,我发现我记挂着当初那些扮演过的角色,有一天,我想我会再度扮演类似角色的,只是现在,不行,可是在我心里对那行业的热忱,我知道的,不灭。教育,也是立人之行业也。偶尔我会很彷徨,别人一份工就做长久,做到升值加薪,即使没换工的,都不转行,在同一行业打滚至成了该行精英,我呢?我走过多条路,舍弃一切,重新来过,我愿意相信我有青春、有本钱去挥霍、去探索,可能,每个人的人生风景都不一样的,可能,穿插各行各业的结果是,我有的是更为</span><span lang="EN-GB">versatile</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">的待人处事的方式和思维,反正我知道,失败或是怎么样,我肯定有能力重来的。未来会怎么样?我期待。我是个凡夫俗子,但愿身体健康、人平安,不让爱我的人担心就好。</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman";mso-hansi-font-family:"Times New Roman";mso-ansi-language: EN-GB">人啊,要走的路还很长呢</span><span lang="EN-GB">……. <o:p></o:p></span></p>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-60716313787886739412012-03-10T13:01:00.002-08:002012-03-10T13:08:42.315-08:00穷追想当初 我们同样怀着梦想<div>以为那就是我们的目的地,</div><div>后来却发现,原来几经辛苦到达的地方也不过如此</div><div>我们却依旧盼望着、盼望着,</div><div>似乎无止境地期盼下一个目的地,</div><div>离我似近还远,</div><div>不知道需要等多久,</div><div>也不知道下一个目的地是否也一样</div><div>开始没了冲劲</div><div>为什么一再追求</div><div>追求些什么 谁能告诉我</div><div>无非想找个让人有归属感的地方罢了</div><div>而家 离我越来越远了</div>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-5541302995328383762011-05-05T16:51:00.000-07:002011-05-05T17:01:06.646-07:00旅人的爱情<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYGviv3KqgVAAqKn1xJDsRjeYbNYMF0A8yX-mkTo8Y1VMbDMgy4XFfHOPUbuyozaE1_OP4-s5sHOdY5UlwsA68XxaTQdpNfnxqwBih_JkP0AoEPsL2H8gk0bYmU-2vTgB4LN5tmZAFmsU/s1600/DSCN1043.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYGviv3KqgVAAqKn1xJDsRjeYbNYMF0A8yX-mkTo8Y1VMbDMgy4XFfHOPUbuyozaE1_OP4-s5sHOdY5UlwsA68XxaTQdpNfnxqwBih_JkP0AoEPsL2H8gk0bYmU-2vTgB4LN5tmZAFmsU/s320/DSCN1043.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603384664997728082" border="0" /></a><br />随风漂泊的,是你的人;蠢蠢欲动的,是你的心。你为什么流浪?你为什么远走他乡?而你是不是毫无眷恋的?可知,走了许久,有一天,你会累的,那么,何处又是你栖身之地?你又会为谁而停留?<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlbrKOVkSaD7jrPL0rye9MpE11zTSEg2lmuaYRauVR39hLUAIpmGEa1oo68N7TqdW3q4mMHhpQTQp5Cq68h_p_9B8RY3OovbOay2yBYWTr1u1hIN1s16JpgSRqut4-75ULYs-wNCCDkOg/s1600/DSCN0980.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlbrKOVkSaD7jrPL0rye9MpE11zTSEg2lmuaYRauVR39hLUAIpmGEa1oo68N7TqdW3q4mMHhpQTQp5Cq68h_p_9B8RY3OovbOay2yBYWTr1u1hIN1s16JpgSRqut4-75ULYs-wNCCDkOg/s320/DSCN0980.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603384674495036434" border="0" /></a>犹记得当初,我为了离开他的世界而到外面去看看,而后没想到我因此而改变了。本来,我以为我的心会这么被他给钳制住到永远的,一味付出而没有回报,却也甘之如饴,像是上辈子欠了他的,我不忍心放下无助的他。即使在我走的时候,上飞机之前也在和他联系,他是我的牵挂,我担心他以后找不到倾诉的对象…..。<br /><br />那时候,我想,我的人不管走到哪儿,我的心依旧会系着他,分离只会让我愈发想念他罢了。距离,会加深思念。每一次难得的网上聊天或长途通话,会让感情更为深厚。刚开始时确实是这样的,我望着天上闪闪发亮的星星,这么远,那么近,我想着远方的他是否也在同一星空下,和我一样看星星…..。<br /><br />然而,渐渐地,我发现,距离,是可以慢慢地,不经意地削断那思念的毛线。游走四方,我心漂浮,我更惊叹于世界之大,天空之辽阔,人之渺小,其实有什么牵挂都好,有什么放不下的感情也好,在你深一深呼吸后,都会烟消云散,迎面而来的,又会是清新空气。<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhc0KUfGU-HPDkFOolG5AE5H9CAqzHmq79iZ8GTrDeCsBsaE9T6qUoaXkn_-cH_rDDir36ziwYFaM_cAssGlE-oULbVQWEZzFFu0tbVdlyagJYMFvToXeJ7Az5rN7nZvCJV6K3QI7QJkyI/s1600/DSCN0921.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhc0KUfGU-HPDkFOolG5AE5H9CAqzHmq79iZ8GTrDeCsBsaE9T6qUoaXkn_-cH_rDDir36ziwYFaM_cAssGlE-oULbVQWEZzFFu0tbVdlyagJYMFvToXeJ7Az5rN7nZvCJV6K3QI7QJkyI/s320/DSCN0921.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603384651697305778" border="0" /></a>我的视野开阔了,原来这世界有那么多新鲜事待我去发掘,原来过于心系一个人是在剥夺自己探索自我、探索世界的机会,我的眼中不该只容下那么一个人。后来,我才了解到,我们不可能在同一星空下看星星,因为时空距离产生了时差,夜阑人静的我这儿,却是艳阳高照的他那儿。<br /><br />人来人往,来去匆匆,旅途上,你会遇到很多人,有些只和你擦肩而过,不留痕迹;有些仅仅是你的过客,过目即忘;而有些成了你的朋友、知己,缘系不灭;甚至有者成了你那一刻的情人,激情不散。我强调,是“那一刻”的情人,因为我还是觉得,大家都是飘忽的旅人,难以安定的,包括情感,所以就算刹那间产生了情感,那都只是在那一刻而已。那段似有还无的情,会开花,但未必会结果。<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijYj-KAkSM84RySG8PJ5PGWqbjDP1dBR_pGC6maMfeMEdY9-3EQtB0kFTYS5kI8hRq8UyAYCFg3rkjYy6C_KRplzk6MNS3VaY_kMEUR5CR6R600ZCFUDngLG07MClsmYYIosEqhyIqSXk/s1600/DSCN0959.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijYj-KAkSM84RySG8PJ5PGWqbjDP1dBR_pGC6maMfeMEdY9-3EQtB0kFTYS5kI8hRq8UyAYCFg3rkjYy6C_KRplzk6MNS3VaY_kMEUR5CR6R600ZCFUDngLG07MClsmYYIosEqhyIqSXk/s320/DSCN0959.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603384662744120674" border="0" /></a>虽然如此,我感谢曾经在旅途中遇过这么一个他,是他让我忘了我喜欢了多年的那个“败家”的他的。以前的我确信爱是完全无私的奉献,更觉得爱人比被爱更幸福,而当我在旅途上遇到这个他以后,我方知原来被一个人关爱着、照顾着的感觉是如此美好的。虽然,因为我当时的笨拙,因为调情方式上文化差异问题,更因为种种现实因素,我们的火焰来不及迸发出火花就被熄灭了,但我记忆中的这段情却是美好的。过后的我回头看,我想,这段情的产生是有其意义的,不该因为结不了果而否定它,它其实让我成长,它让我知道,人在感情路上应该越过关卡而前进的,它是我忘了过去那个他的转折点。(按:早前的帖子有对这段情作详细记录,供现在回味。)<br /><br />后来,在我的生命中也出现过好几个他,只是,因缘的欠缺,我想我们都未能开花结果。而他们在我的生命是占据一个什么样的位置呢?我不知道。或许,后来的后来,我会遇见那个真正的他。有时我也在想,第一次的相遇是偶然,那么第二次、第三次的相遇大概会是命中注定了吧。如果,有那么一天,我再次遇到那过去曾经在一起过的,那么我们应该珍惜这得来不易的缘分。我的后来会是怎样呢?我期待。<br /><br />每对眷属,都有不同的寻觅对方的方式。茫茫人海中,有人轻易地找到对方,有人穿梭于层层人海中苦苦寻觅,有人错认了另一半而狼狈不已,有人错过了真爱而懊悔不已……。而我呢,我隐约认定我的他是得在旅途上寻得的,因为两个不安于位的个体必须在流动的形式之下方可相遇,因为只有在超越现实环境的旅途上,一个人才会忘我地显露自我本色,我才能够贪婪地探索了解他的 true colours。在旅途上,我们谁也不是,我们暂时抛弃自己原本在世俗世界里扮演的角色,没有任何社会规范的钳制,我们大胆地、不羁地做回自己,因为,我们只不过是旅者。相比之下,在工作场合上,我们受制于本身的职业要求而兢兢业业,循规蹈矩的,对同事的认知很多时候也限制于潜意识里产生的和对方职业有关的形象概念,似乎只有在旅途上,一个人才能肆无忌惮地展现自己,或者可以这么说,只有离开了原先一直倚靠的生存环境,一个人才得以发掘另一个自己,那可能是更真实,前所未知的自己。<br /><br />我相信,有一天我会遇到他的。我相信,其实他也在等着遇见我。那么,我们现在的等待是值得的。漂泊的你,有一天会停驻下来的,而我,会在遇到你之时,靠岸。<br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEigub2ynsIlCq71SLo1Kg1bjlLidO4yHyk38MTvfcDyonT0qTrITBVT-2Sf6imVuVKtNZ15oXvaNAUf3b0kU2JgkgkV1zIXUZV7IePrItmjQ4W3fsZm9e4GeFmgEz9BeBFmFtIOkAgdT6s/s1600/DSCN0975.JPG"><img style="display: block; margin: 0px auto 10px; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 280px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEigub2ynsIlCq71SLo1Kg1bjlLidO4yHyk38MTvfcDyonT0qTrITBVT-2Sf6imVuVKtNZ15oXvaNAUf3b0kU2JgkgkV1zIXUZV7IePrItmjQ4W3fsZm9e4GeFmgEz9BeBFmFtIOkAgdT6s/s320/DSCN0975.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5603384646788179202" border="0" /></a>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-27127071311598752402011-01-26T17:10:00.000-08:002011-05-26T22:40:54.601-07:00在西餐厅当适应生<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> 在</span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">Franz Josef </span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">的三个月多里,我曾在当地的一家五星级酒店属下的餐厅当过侍</span></span></span><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTXbljwaqSxk3FjZ4hKeElMV_wcQlHcFcgDq0dn4rfizKfnoKc67XAv-BTtQLNLrR0qdOJnSIdfuF2Gqwt0uPBPpV5tHOYt3rfTrnZPfctOn7NPThw1BdBmGzStRfnIkC7jxMjMTpu5to/s1600/tE+waonui.JPG" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="float: right; margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; cursor: pointer; width: 170px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTXbljwaqSxk3FjZ4hKeElMV_wcQlHcFcgDq0dn4rfizKfnoKc67XAv-BTtQLNLrR0qdOJnSIdfuF2Gqwt0uPBPpV5tHOYt3rfTrnZPfctOn7NPThw1BdBmGzStRfnIkC7jxMjMTpu5to/s200/tE+waonui.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5611182671899929234" border="0" /></a><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">应生,让我见识到西方人所讲究的的高雅餐饮文化(</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">fine dining</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">)</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">,</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">真是和中国人的酒楼餐饮文化</span></span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">大相径庭!总得来说,</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">Fine dining</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">之下的西方人很讲究各种餐饮细节,从餐具摆设、食品搭配、食物</span></span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">色相到情景设置,样样都让人如此花心</span></span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">思,绝不儿戏。相比来说,现代的中国人更为注重食物味道,反正能刺激味蕾,使之产生快感的,那就什么也不用管,随手拿起筷子就大快朵颐呗,更不必顾形象的。坦白说,我喜欢这样不顾餐饮礼仪的,吃是一件快事,一种官能享受,因此西方餐饮礼仪对我而言是很麻烦的。</span></span></span><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><o:p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> 当个侍应生,我主要的工作是端食物</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">出去。我得记得楼面每张餐桌和座位的个别号码,在厨师准备好食物后,依照主管的吩咐端菜去指定的餐桌之下的座位,“</span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">Could you please take it to table no. 40 and seat no.2?</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">” 。知道了吧,中国人聚餐是以“中央政府”的形式进行的,主菜放中</span></span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">间,大伙一块儿夹菜,而西方人则是“地方自治”,各自吃各自的</span></span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">,所以我才需要弄清楚座号,要是在中国餐馆,弄清桌号就行了。</span></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgR3ufVx5gDKEpMFnZ3fSQWCG81TFKc7AySYSXUp9tumWaZcUVWt5umhtKZ0BWljEu7zfoROkpr9Z7mipYTqZti1dCYLUPouQycMg7qGmAZ3iLAnxm4vuaMfOxM3idNrSEI57urJiaf-Is/s1600/DSCN0406.JPG" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="float: right; margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgR3ufVx5gDKEpMFnZ3fSQWCG81TFKc7AySYSXUp9tumWaZcUVWt5umhtKZ0BWljEu7zfoROkpr9Z7mipYTqZti1dCYLUPouQycMg7qGmAZ3iLAnxm4vuaMfOxM3idNrSEI57urJiaf-Is/s200/DSCN0406.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5611182662938544626" border="0" /></a></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><o:p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> 我工作的这间高级餐厅的顾客多为英国游客,或者一些外国的有钱游客,毕竟这里的价格贵得吓人啊,不是你和我有能力花费的。每次端菜出去,我尽量动作优雅地将食物摆在客人面前,其实有点战战兢兢的,哎,主管说,要注意盘子摆放,不要放太靠近客人身子,盘内主食如羊扒的骨头尖端不能对准客人,实在太讲究了!有时忙起来,两手拿两盘食物,我真的顾不了那么多,我无法</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">腾空一只手来调动盘子的摆设,要是主管不在,那就算啦。其实客人也未必在意的,这些来</span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">fine dining</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">的客人都</span></span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">是斯文人,绝不会对侍应生</span></span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">吆喝大叫地</span></span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">,反之让人受宠若惊的是,他们一般在我放下盘子以后,就对着我微笑,还很有礼貌地道谢,看到我端给他们的食物是他们中意的,还会表现得喜出望外地说“</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">this is lovely!</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">”,吃得开心后,还会向我说,“</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">Tell the chef the food is great!</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">”。</span></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><o:p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> 我还记得有好几次客人还会和我们这些侍应生聊天的,问我从哪儿来呀。我在中国餐馆做过工,一般那边的客人自顾自吃地,哪会和侍应生聊天啊。有一次吧,一个</span></span><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGSbEd8O7nCKtdAwu2rnoXftjM2nzVu_SUO1EKutMa5KT2wIgIAtqMDvZDysIub2m6UnrYqeWDVNutEmJg04H3KrG4OyZM00r3xr03vTfDRUwwiCC79TXa4OjDipRoashcyB9XeK4ky_I/s1600/DSCN0397.JPG" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="float: right; margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGSbEd8O7nCKtdAwu2rnoXftjM2nzVu_SUO1EKutMa5KT2wIgIAtqMDvZDysIub2m6UnrYqeWDVNutEmJg04H3KrG4OyZM00r3xr03vTfDRUwwiCC79TXa4OjDipRoashcyB9XeK4ky_I/s200/DSCN0397.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5611182658705820354" border="0" /></a><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">幽默的老伯还对我开了玩笑,我放下盘子那一刻,他说,“</span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">oh this is beautiful!</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">” 我报以微</span></span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">笑,他再说,“</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">not the food, but you.</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">”噢,那时我还真感到尴尬啊。</span></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><o:p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> 整个晚餐进行为时挺长的,想想从开胃菜到几样主菜,再到最后的甜品,每一次都得确保同一餐桌上的客人全都吃完后,被侍应生一一收拾干净后,才能上下一道菜。我们要</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">去收</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">拾的时候,得问问客人,“</span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">May I clear?</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">” 或 “</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">Have you finished?</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">”记得有一次,我那客人</span></span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">吃完了吗,而他居然展现俏皮一笑,说:“</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">I</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">’</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">m afraid I can</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">’</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">t take the bones anymore.</span><span lang="ZH-CN"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">”哇,这是不是叫作英式幽默啊?</span></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><o:p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> 其实为这些客人服务还挺开心的,但这份工作也不是那么轻松的。可想而知,西方餐饮的瓷制碗碟有多重!令人不忿的是,很多大大的盘子是用来盛那么一点小小份的食物,那食物像装饰品那样很精致地摆在大大的盘子上,所以累坏了我们这些端盘子的侍应生。我们</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">中国人的食物可是盛满一个盘子的啊,这才省事嘛。无论如何,这三个月多在这家西方高级餐厅工作,我想会是一个很难忘的经验,反正这是我这辈子以来最有吃甜品的福气的时候,这种高级西方甜品啊,很贵的,我离开这餐厅以后都不可能自</span></span><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3zZrl0LW_dLUi5f5BWGpcIWqG2e_n0M510WVl2scisxyayuhfUHupjg68-JzDjVG7AecDOx6zpwlo7xHgGx-5c4VSk_s-OMR5R9AyqVh_yfzf6bJfUb8LYvcVUN5tJ-38W4oRN5Z8liA/s1600/DSCN0407.JPG" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="float: right; margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3zZrl0LW_dLUi5f5BWGpcIWqG2e_n0M510WVl2scisxyayuhfUHupjg68-JzDjVG7AecDOx6zpwlo7xHgGx-5c4VSk_s-OMR5R9AyqVh_yfzf6bJfUb8LYvcVUN5tJ-38W4oRN5Z8liA/s200/DSCN0407.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5611182662643104258" border="0" /></a><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">己掏腰包去买来吃,正如我</span></span><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg16AGMb0BssdljmtIw6cIW_PNCvx33VHBxf1k7Fstcoh1nKqlxwEdQod63N3pMLrVsRDtIohTUUF9cKdJO1lGu8Y2EG-9BdZbGpOtX4KdH2WOImdlzmOLhHvo69MkYZoIhI6WMnfY7ZXY/s1600/DSCN2712.JPG" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="float: right; margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; cursor: pointer; width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg16AGMb0BssdljmtIw6cIW_PNCvx33VHBxf1k7Fstcoh1nKqlxwEdQod63N3pMLrVsRDtIohTUUF9cKdJO1lGu8Y2EG-9BdZbGpOtX4KdH2WOImdlzmOLhHvo69MkYZoIhI6WMnfY7ZXY/s200/DSCN2712.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5611182667187025058" border="0" /></a><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">上次在蓝莓园工作那样,人生中似乎只有那几个星期才能吃现成的蓝莓吃得那么过瘾。至于餐厅里的其他正餐食物嘛,嗯,非奶油则芝士</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">味,调味料不够多元化,没什么香料,烹饪方式就只以烤煎炸为主,我们中餐的可丰富了,还有炒蒸焖煮炖烩等,因此我</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">觉得中餐比较可口,</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">西方食物嘛,还是其甜点来得吸引人。</span></span><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:华文仿宋;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <!--EndFragment-->leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-80730907944948579492011-01-23T06:12:00.000-08:002011-01-23T06:14:03.291-08:00岁月•女人•美我开始爱美了,更开始愿意花钱、花心思去为自己做些门面功夫。经过化妆店,随手试试化点脸颊红妆,粉末搽在双颊上,嗯,其实我觉得自己挺好看的。<br /><br />突然有这种想法,我漫漫一生中,年轻的岁月说长不长,说短不短,也许到老时会感觉青春一晃眼就那么过了,所以我想在自己年轻的时候,认真地、尽情地为自己装饰一番,更加凸显本来就不差的容颜,为我的青春刻下印记,为未来留个纪念,我会知道,我年轻过、漂亮过、璀璨过。<br /><br />一个女人,人生中各个阶段,呈现出不同的美,我,廿六岁的容颜,该是怎么样的呢?而一个女人到了三十多岁,她呈现出来的,大概就是一种成熟知性的美吧,现在廿六岁的我呢,还真的有点孩子气,而步入中年了呢,皱纹印证了岁月对自己的洗礼,但因此会有了老练事故的沧桑美,或是人生已达到一种富足境界的贵气美。<br /><br />每天起身,你第一件做的事不外乎刷牙洁面、梳理妆容,对着镜子,你或许不知道的,你的容颜一天一天地其实在慢慢地变化,只是变化之小和其循序渐进的方式,模糊了你对自己容颜变化的视线,也或许日日忙碌的生活让你不自觉地愈发不在乎自己的外表,或是你很看透地觉得外表只不过是身外事。无论如何,你都该知道自己容颜的日渐变化。你天天忧愁而皱着的眉头让眉宇间的肉紧绷起来,你那常常发自内心的笑让你的嘴角往上扬、脸颊的肉不再下垂了,或是你的生理因时间流逝而削弱了新陈代谢功能,显现在你松弛的肌肉和皱纹上。想象,有一天,当我清晨醒来,顿时领悟自己老了,渐渐成形的皱纹明显起来了,那时,我会作何感想呢?我会是怀念起自己年少时的容颜,还是坦然接受自己全新的面貌、迎接人生崭新的另一阶段?<br /><br /><br />我已经不管那些所谓内在美才是美、色既是空的话语,任何一种形式的美,本身已具备价值了。认识我的人也都知道,我一直崇尚自然美,也是那种超级懒惰打扮的女人,甚至连基本的护肤品也没什么买,房间内那仅有的护肤品似乎难以被更换,一直用不完。然而,现在我顿时觉得,自然美是美,但少了人些许的为修饰,就像是少了光亮照耀的美景,亮丽的光芒无法散发出来。和人一样,不是世界每处的美景都像桂林山水那样得天独厚,美得清水出芙蓉,不用去雕饰,有些人的美,上帝未将之雕饰得完美,而她需要靠后天努力来维持,那因为馋嘴而长多余的赘肉、那经艳阳晒伤的皮肤,你不去留意怎么行?没多少人是怎么吃也吃不胖的,那些可以承受太阳暴晒的女孩也是少数,至少我不是。此外,我很罕有地有些苟同那些很用心去打扮的女孩,至少那份用心的态度已叫她变得美了。<br /><br />当然,我还是无法打扮得太夸张,加长眼睫毛,涂眼影,噢,不了。化妆对我而言,好像是把化学成品洒在自己精致的脸上,不妙啊。<br /><br />那我该怎么个打扮法呢?呵呵,今天我花了马币88元买了一个烫直发机,还有前几天买了点白芷、白芨之类的中药材料以用来敷脸,不便宜啊,我是应该三思才花这个钱,一般我该跟自己说:“这钱可以够我吃不知多少天的饭了!”可是这次我并没有如此对自己说,我反倒觉得,身为一个女人,花钱在此,似乎在为自己做出一个会有回报的投资,我想让自己照着镜子时,会满意地发出会心一笑,因为欣赏镜中人像而对着镜子眷恋几回,更或许,因而找到那个欣赏自己独有容颜的另一半?<br /><br />水木年华有一首歌是这样唱的:<br />多少人曾爱慕你年轻时的容颜<br />可知谁愿承受岁月无情的变迁<br />多少人曾在你生命中来了又换<br />可知一生有你我都陪在你身边leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-72450082414842794982011-01-13T15:56:00.001-08:002011-01-13T15:57:21.042-08:00爱,给予自由<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvVbhvoYhlv9SHkwefSCxCNbPFJChgf-X1MseBjeQrwg5oA-WJeT6nzfxkC-MSAHM2nca6SyKEODi9Jyb1ppOSN4ake7s4IcnD3NjbwrvP2KoAD3IfGcGIvG1ICZLSRMrAZI6G4A1NFaE/s1600/Love%252C+freedom.jpeg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvVbhvoYhlv9SHkwefSCxCNbPFJChgf-X1MseBjeQrwg5oA-WJeT6nzfxkC-MSAHM2nca6SyKEODi9Jyb1ppOSN4ake7s4IcnD3NjbwrvP2KoAD3IfGcGIvG1ICZLSRMrAZI6G4A1NFaE/s320/Love%252C+freedom.jpeg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5561823841390181026" /></a><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" line-height: 17px; font-family:'BBAlpha Sans', 'Prelude Medium', 'S60 Sans', Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif;font-size:13px;"><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.35em; margin-left: 0px; "><span style="line-height: normal; font-size:100%;">朋友说在我毕业典礼时本想送花给我的,但奈何现场没花卖,就没送成。我说幸好我没收到花,因为我根本都不喜欢鲜花,不,应该说我不喜欢摘下来、包装好的花。我觉得硬把花摘下来作商业用途对花而言是很可悲的。真正爱花者不会为了强占花的美而自私地把花从滋养它的园地摘下来,而后忍心地看它逐渐枯萎凋谢。我宁可花儿艳丽地在阳光下生长,让泥土给予它养分,虽然我无法占有它,可是我让它茁壮生长,这是我给予它自由。</span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.35em; margin-left: 0px; "><span style="line-height: normal; font-size:100%;">爱鸟者饲养一只夜莺鸟,因为太爱它了,太喜欢鸟儿吟唱的歌声了,所以把它关在笼里,让鸟儿日夜陪着主人。可是爱鸟者剥夺了鸟儿飞翔的自由。我宁可看鸟儿自由自在地在空中翱翔,让辽阔天空为它所好,虽然我无法天天听它歌唱,可是我满足它飞翔的欲望,偶然我倚靠窗前看它回来,就好。</span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1.35em; margin-left: 0px; "><span style="line-height: normal; font-size:100%;">爱情中,要是知道此情不能走下去了,就给对方自由吧。爱是不能勉强的,要放手给予自己所爱的人自由,也许不容易,也许不舍和难过,但即便你勉强把他留下,他的心不在你这儿了,最终谁也不快乐。或许,让自己爱的人自由自在地按照他们的意愿去生活,不把自己的愿望强加给他们,这是一种为放弃的情操。无法作为天天亲密相聚的伴侣,就把此情悄悄收藏在心底,只要知道你快乐,我就很好了。</span></p></span>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-22570978607501537202011-01-10T06:46:00.001-08:002011-01-10T06:49:34.223-08:00我失去了一个朋友。该怎么诠译你的不告而别?<br />是你的无情?抑或是世俗的无奈?又或是那无意用情之错?<br /><br />为什么让我看到人情中不美好之缺陷?<br />说是爱情叫人太沉重,可你怎忍心摧毁多年来的友谊?<br />难怪他们总说爱情是自私的,虽然此话不适予我。<br />为了保全你们的爱情,却牺牲了我们的友谊。<br /><br />我还以为友情是最安稳的情感形态,不若无常爱情般起伏大,然你推翻了这一切。<br />曾经纯贵的友谊,憨直的你老将情义挂口中,如今你把心一横置之于死地,我措手不已。<br /><br />预想不到的。如此我深感友情之同样脆弱,是否,如今和身边的患难之交,可能来日也同样被摧残?我不敢想。<br /><br />谁叫我是个重情义的人?他们说这种朋友不要也罢,可是我心依旧不舍。<br />这一切,来得太突然了。<br /><br />该怎么诠译你对我的断绝往来?<br />宁可相信是你的迫于无奈,那么原来的那个好朋友在我心中,未变。leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-23854745059014411372010-12-27T17:14:00.000-08:002010-12-28T00:40:07.793-08:00时代变了么?今天在吉隆玻市中心走了许久,办些公务事,路过一间皮肤专科诊所,就走进去问诊了,是的,不知道是不是到泰国旅游的缘故,我的皮肤敏感,痒得不得了,抓也抓到流血了,多难看。我是个不看医生的人,反正觉得什么病都好,只要不太严重的,都可以让它自然痊愈的,上一次看医生倒是两年前的事了,小病,其实不想看医生的,只是恰好需要向公司请假,就借故一下呗。<br /><br />进去这皮肤专科诊所后,在柜台上登记时瞄到医生的专业资格记录,他是皮肤专科,也是性病专家,嗯,这两者很有关联吧。<br /><br />轮到我看医生了,他检查了我脚部受影响的皮肤后,我也告诉他我其实下体边缘部分也很痒,他说得检查一下,为了让我放心,他叫一位女护士进来,女护士其实什么也不需要做,就是站在那儿,让我安心给医生检查而已。其实,这位老医生是让我放心的,直觉吧,一个医生有没有医德,从他面容上也显现得出来。只所以得检查下体边缘处,是因为他担心我是生藓,结果不是的,那就好。然后他给我打针,打针前问我上一次经期是几时,是为了知道我有没有可能是怀孕的,有怀孕的话是不能打那针的。我呵呵笑说,当然没怀孕啊,医生也说,“噢,还没成婚吧?”,再补说一句:“啊,现在时代变了,这很难说,现在的人,有些性行为发生得很儿戏的。”我点头附和,就受下那枝打在屁股的针了。<br /><br />后来,这医生略告诉我我的皮肤病后,向我确保是不会传染人了以后,看似理所当然的,他和我聊了好多好多,关于他病人的案例,当然说时是匿名的。他一直说,时代变了,人脑就像电脑的程序编写那样(programming),变得多样化和复杂化了,吸收资讯的能力也强了。<br /><br />老医生的儿子也是医生,在英国,有一个案例是这样的,有两对分别是男同性恋者和女同性恋的,四人都认识彼此,双方都想要有孩子。要是以前的话,你说怎么办呢?就双方暂时为造人而互换性伴侣啊,当作一个任务完成罢了就好,这虽不是妙计,但也是一种办法。想当然尔,如今科技日新月异,这个案的结果是,这同性恋者都很抗拒和异性接触,觉得那是对自己伴侣不忠的,更无法忍受和异性有亲密接触,所以呢,他们各取异性那一对的精子或卵子,再取用体外受孕的技术来造人。<br /><br />还有一个个案是这样的,一个老男人,其老妻无法产子了,他却渴望有个孩子,就从卵子市场中挑个合意的。据说在美国和一些西方国家,卖卵者们的照片一一陈列出来,任君挑选,一般人都选择年轻貌美的。而这些卖卵者,很多是本身经济有问题,需要钱,有者甚至以此来攻读学业,就卖卵啊,反正只卖卵不卖身,没有伤害到自己的。卖者在出售自己卵子之前,得签个合约,内容是保证自己以后不会认和自己有血缘关系的“亲骨肉”。那么,那老男人就能够有自己的孩子了。<br /><br />这两个案子,听起来好像没什么道德冲突,老医生也说,我们无法也没资格定论对与错,甚至是没有对与错的事儿。<br /><br />只是,我们不禁也在想,孩子长大后怎么办?他会是怎样的人?他又会如何看待自己的“双亲”?他会不会有一种自我身份的抗拒,皆因他觉得自己不是“自然产物”,他不是爱的结晶品?可是可是…嗯,若生长环境下的双亲用爱来抚养他,他也是不是可以健康成长?可是,这样的双亲给予的爱会否少于自然产子的双亲?如果这类案子越来越普及,社会和谐度是否受到一定程度上的打击?亲子间的关系是否受影响?至于同性恋者养育的孩儿,他会接受和别的小孩不一样的家庭模式吗?传统家庭指的是一个有爸爸妈妈和孩儿的家,爸和妈,这两个阴与阳完整的角色,给予孩子该有的关爱。<br /><br />以后的社会会变得怎样?我们一路走来,社会价值观,对事物的接纳度也在变,传统的价值观有时也在受到某种程度上的挑战。好比中国人一直以来信仰律己的儒教,稍忽略了个人的发展,后来西方思想抬头了,引介了好多自由民主的观念。这就是那渐渐成型的改变了。<br /><br />我想我还算是传统的人,可是我也相信每个人,只要在不负面干涉到他人的情形下,都有权追求自己想要的,我们无权以我们的价值观批判任何人,因为他们并没有伤害到你。可予我呢,我想自己是不会借精生子,也不会借腹产子(把自己卵子套在另一个女人身上,让她代产),因为我只觉得,身为女人,你当然希望用自身的能力,孕育出一个生命,你当然想看精子和卵子在自己的腹中慢慢地、慢慢地形成一个生命,一天一天看自己的腹部长大,用手爱抚他,给他胎教,让他用踢的来和你作无声沟通,这和在婴儿出生后看他渐渐长大是没什么分别的。我想,以母体孕育自己的孩子是自然规律的一环。<br /><br />说回这个医生,他看病无数,无意中也看尽了人生世事百态,因为也专看性病,所以有些不为人知的私事,病人也曾向他倾诉,因为如此私密,难以启齿的事,除了向医生说以外,真的不知道该向谁说了,可是是不可忽视的问题来的,不说憋着也难受,医生呢,就也充当了辅导员和咨询员。现在,老医生转头告诉我,他倒也想将自身见闻和一个人分享吧,当然,他是以绝对匿名的方式说出来这些案例的。后来我告诉他,我曾是心理辅导员呢。<br /><br />曾有个女病人恍恍惚惚、欲言又止地问:老公行房要我和他肛交,其实肛交可不可行的?老医生给予的劝告是:“第一:做这事需要在双方同意之下才进行(mutual consent);第二:事前一定要有准备,卫生最重要,得净身,还有用油滑剂(lubrication);第三:切记得循序渐进,不能勉强硬来而伤身,不能强求,第一次无法完全穿过,部分性地穿过(partially penetrate)也就好了,即到而止。<br /><br />老医生告诉我,有些人会想要肛交或任何特别的性交方式,是为了寻求刺激感来自我满足,然而我们是有智慧道德的人类,做这种事,是得顾忌另一半的,所以老医生所说的第一条件就是得寻求双方同意,如果你不要,直接说不要,say you’re not comfortable with it。是的,我想这叫爱,因为爱,所以你愿意顾及对方的意愿,因为爱,你愿意给,因为爱,你也知道爱着你的对方是疼爱着你而不愿让你违背自己意愿来迁就他的。<br /><br />人类毕竟是有智慧,有心的动物,不是兽类。一只公狮可以和好多母狮进行性行为,在林里,一只勇猛地,有能力保护母狮们的公狮可以实行一夫多妻制,和母狮们共处于一个圈子,因为这些母狮也正需要他的保护。但人类的爱情是天下无双的,是唯一的,我们和兽类不一样。在一般情况之下,只有一个人是你认定要和你共度一辈子的人,因为我们有感情,兽类的性交大概就是自然本能使然,也是为生存,为那性的快感。人类的关乎到感情,性交行为也在大脑理智第分析该不该和内心感觉愿不愿之下才能进行。<br /><br />雌性动物在需要的时候,身体会发出引诱性的气味,这叫发情,当雄性动物察觉到的时候,就会如雌性动物所愿而展开攻势。可以说,雄性只在雌性传达出意愿后才攻上的。人类呢?我不太确定,据知女性大概是用沟通来表达自己的意愿,发情期不若动物那般频繁。然而,雄性动物是很有生理需要的,要是一方时常要,一方却意兴阑珊,双方的满足就很不一致。老医生说,曾有女病人很苦恼地向他倾诉:“我现在每回和丈夫干那事的时候感觉只像在循例执行任务那般(it’s like a duty),我不知道这还有没有意义。”<br /><br />时代变了,资讯发达之下,人凭着各种管道接触到更多的事,有着更多的选择,看了更多的人。老医生的那个时代的人啊,很多时候,年轻时爱上的那一个,往往就是一生一世的了。生活简单,社交活动也不多,更没有极速约会(speed dating)这回事。现在却,婚外情的事层出不穷。照如此说来,哈哈,我发现我倒希望活在老医生、我爸妈的年代,那时候的人,活在物质贫乏的年代,倒也过得自在,没钱也可以结婚,现在可不一样了,男性一般觉得要有一定的经济基础才有资格去泡妞,有钱才能结婚,所以都成了工作狂啊,拼命赚钱。可我不是这么想的,大家一起为生活奋斗才是,有钱没钱有何关系,大家在一起快乐不就可以了么?<br /><br />和老医生问诊聊天记,我的思维受了一阵小震荡。唉,爱情似乎变得不简单的。从来都不是我理想中的那样:我喜欢你,你也喜欢我,也没管谁追谁,我们很自然就在一起,就这么了,从朋友到亲密好友到爱人的关系,一切就是那般自然发生的事,没什么顾虑的。想必那就是我至今还是单身的原因了,我越追求简单越追不得。leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-74415250044005687042010-12-12T17:51:00.000-08:002011-06-20T19:36:00.442-07:00第一次的徒步行-Copland TrackAs highly recommended by a friend, before I left Franz Josef, I tried so hard to take leaves from my hotel job and went for Copland Track.<br /><br />Travel information tells that this track is suitable for tramper with some prior experience, and it can be quite tough for beginners. However, I decided to go for it without any hesitation at all! Well .. I was just thinking, “I’m always proud of my tough feet and willpower, I wouldn’t feel tired easily even for a long distance of walk..”<br /><br />Obviously, I underestimated this track, with a variety of challenging condition to cross over, it is one’s bodily coordination and balancing that matter. I’m the one without much kinesthetic sense, but luckily it’s still fine, willpower takes the lead for any other matters, no matter how frequent I fall, how many times I’ve made myself so ugly, I think I am still quite resilient to stand up and go on, haha, bragging.<br /><br />It took about 6 to 9 hours to finish the track (one way). In the very early morning, my friend from Hong Kong and I started with it and till the evening, we stayed in a hut. The next day, we went back to the origin.<br /><br /><div><br /><br /><div><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 214px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549982069394500322" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJPg_aPQd-9a4qWm_x5E3DKoPrf5WWXhj8v1JWCpb7IrK3dwejjE6nxR4x-VMbSN9MXhyKt13Z1AjYr8gHrjdMR187z7skwyBI1XgwmGln-TvtI7L6RFkxUxUOYZHG9COCS7u2LrbB7E4/s320/100421_044.jpg" /><br />因为一个英国朋友大力推荐的缘故,离开Franz Josef之前,我硬要抽出时间,不惜从酒店的工作请假,就是要完成Copland Track徒步走就对了。旅游资讯介绍说这track是很险峻的,适合有稍有些经验的徒步探险者。我是毫无经验的,可是我一点犹豫都没,要去就对了,我心想:我的脚力毅力一向来都是比一般人好的,我走多远都不言累啊。可见当时的我太低估这track了,其实不是我脚力好就行的,走这种track,个人的身体协调能力和平衡能力更是不可忽视的因素。但还好,所有这些因素都是建立在毅力之上的,我这个人是没什么运动细胞 的,跌倒了无数次,出丑也当习惯了,但我就是撑得住,继续走到终点为止…<br /><br />其实这是得用一天时间走完的track,我和以为来自香港的朋友一大清晨出发,直到傍晚抵达终点的小屋棚过夜。<br /><br /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 180px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549983438979930562" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUV8ZHygmP-g2TXB33nbZi1r61sovpOOu7IhU8Id0p5LvcWHs_DOaElOrNJLZnq9ct2EbEI8T2JTMYd7_aCYj9pVZ9BI0zsMp6h2RjD9StXhQ2AxFxT-LR_7VrY2VvrI8Xiqbw48xH9FQ/s320/arr2.jpg" /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 214px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549983442265776642" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwFtvEWRQTTFVMe250CPzJnjN66OSQg62z4-xe6D0T6SVtIg2otasjXWzcEiRwFzK4xQextFst4pEdUtMTpnnLAS56px1SIDs4qwHAx3R9VkXFDLyycEMNMmpZ554YuPn-Xh2V0C27a-k/s320/arr3.jpg" /><br /><div><div><div><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 214px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549982934907764738" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj-pTNPzlHn7fl42n3SV-7D7xG-0e35Pxvu9Bh9U7i25lgvYHqEk5edwVbkBf-nS0C2DzSK8JD-qiXXxx8PCGzmKkFWmPidCwY8IjuQe9z-sZA-2fqi_gUJbkJIGRmgdGfotv-ebDMMChM/s320/100421_056.jpg" /> </div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div><br /></div><div><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 214px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549982073263634050" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjotQ-5S6M7O5bvO8w9sLmJ_Rr0z4N39YOwCYf052ACv4rwHTuPHtlTqt7Fl9CtRmhIwHBpftYLE3ARQzmN1c0kyB-dgP0nckGO1E8_W2qzVyyId5pyt_FaWR2tP0pUS3AdEEkRWJsY9Nw/s320/100421_046.jpg" />这经验对我而言是难忘的。有几次,我跌下小悬崖,那时朋友被吓倒了,还好只是小悬崖,还好我跌下那一刹那恰好抓紧了树干,还好我爬得上去。还有一次,我和朋友走散了,我自己一个人不知怎么地,就迷路了,走到了不是路的路,地势更为险峻的路,我爬啊爬,奋力抓紧那树干,我身后的是零零散散的山中树丛,也看得见底下疾疾而流的小河,我无从可逃,我必须找到出路,我只能往上看,横着倒下的树干太大了,我该怎么攀过?从树干底下弯身而越过吗?那支撑着我的身子的是什么?稳不稳固?要是,要是我不小心失足,要是山泥倾泻,我不幸掉下去悬崖了,那怎么办?<br /><br />可想而知,其实那时候的我是异常害怕的,当时的心悸是令人难以想象的。我越是害怕,越是想找到出路。幸亏,后来我真的走出了。只是,其实在那千钧一发的时刻,我发现自己那一刻最深的牵挂是什么,要是我有什么三长两短的话,我最遗憾的是什么,我告诉自己,“你真的不能有事,不然爸爸妈妈会很伤心的!”。原来在危急时刻,我才了解我如今在世上最挂念、最放不下的人是双亲,我是一个我行我素,有些非传统的女孩,他们的话我未必听,可是在我的心深处,我完全了解爸妈对我的爱的,令他们难过,会是我千万个不愿意看到的事….。如今我安然无恙了,在纽西兰流浪六个月后,我平安到家了,我想我该感到欣慰的。<br /><br />事情过后,我想起了孔老夫子的一句话:未知生,焉知死。<br /><br /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 214px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549982931361160418" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6nAEkXN9IijyXoIpIfoJIVzIA9jtBi4a8SxYK1L3TBwRLIFYwW3REA62Dc2OHuAtRcRbcaWTrf4e_4oXiA0iSPcG79iVQhHA_SRuHDjSn8dN1a_7JVMe_zUNscS3oOjZ1g33phzYEzFs/s320/100421_049.jpg" />The experience with Copland Track is really a memorable one for me. From there I encountered the greatest fear, despite the initial fall at the turning point amidst the narrow mountain path, there was another time I lost touch with my friend, somehow I just unheedingly walked on a path that wasn’t supposed to be a path!<br /><br />I struggled to find my way out, what’s behind me was the scattered bosk and it looked like a cliff, I could see the fast-flowing small river too. No, no, I can’t turn my head back and I can only look upward … I grasped the tree branch so tightly, and I wondered if I was steadily supported?<br /><br />Luckily I found my way out. I was terribly scared, and I realized one thing: at such delicate situation, what worried me the most. At that moment, my mind only thought about that I couldn’t let anything happened on me, else my mom and dad would be very sad … then I knew, in the world, parents are the ones I care the most. I am not a very obedient daughter, am actually quite a reckless one especially when going for things I want, yet deep inside my heart, I know their love is forever unconditional to me..<br /><br /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 214px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549982936608974082" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEioB_VwKVXmzlvTxoQKc71rSYK6tmthNZ4EKmL3J85cUhTx3rEppYvf3oEJ2LtimMf3q1QB25KTXNDuObyd7jFvd7hj8XyFB6yeNNHAWFC58dE7ELt0WFV1lqOFl9Jvfb9u0jKT6nOuxcI/s320/100421_055.jpg" /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 292px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 154px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549983441416671522" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEitMYyxNNn0zDHwYPk3GaAr2YAU1jEaCv3vDrYrH-i8cTGiVDytxZLqRQZHl9eccfyeLgFuFuKdy1thWScTI7FsNbnbd8DMIKrFQi5EuDb2Inbptx1Z97TOBQH8JbSI2sRPffGkVjilzU4/s320/P1070954.jpg" /><br /><div>有道是“不经一番寒彻骨,哪得梅花扑鼻香”,我这下言之,“不经一路荆棘行,哪得温泉暖我身”。<br />是的,徒步行走了超过五小时后,在抵达今夜留宿之处- 小屋棚时,那儿是有一个自然温泉等着我们的,全身酸痛,累到乏力了,此时看到那温泉,让我太感动了,那还是自然温泉,我这辈子第一次泡温泉,第一次看过的温泉还是天然的!<br /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 214px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549981598140596050" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGIzzfdVjMKvdZXjB38xrapelkF9lrCy7dwZO03NZYSfyg-JtS-7bPA48efGP61DvKm7OIsccT9Vnthpt8Ia2Ps_CBG211KZRW8TgWGMrYbkb-A8lN1PnaCkm1-0BuQVYu4B1TPPhxJJE/s320/100420_103.jpg" />No pain, no gain; finally after more than 5 hours of trampling, when we reached the hut, there was a natural hot pool awaiting us! I was so touching to see the hot pool and I quickly jumped into it!<img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 214px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549982061979367602" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhElwXBpYKkTIvMgdEVx9moOTsbhl1y8rHxWzG9t-ex-jLfG-JfJrYBp9T3MlcEfGPTqLlJZ_L_DKjZX47SpMDnvCOGeLnRRQ7bWsHiTq4NKF3rIqvV1AIELafcdvYThZhbZXJPYVCD-8E/s320/100420_029.jpg" /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 180px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549982069409792066" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEha0b8-Cep_026PxIcHTYrzjMFlDOJ-bKSwXapfPhmb5QJo2TfRh00RrCepGj-6KcVYJMRS3smPCgKzHsLi-YYpA2mvjRVqHYhCf1wcrVUCgvD2ZqZspijq1IBLFK17QEPviHgCUKK_vL4/s320/100421_038.jpg" /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 128px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549982949717683314" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizES9GI72LnB6ok7j9Qbc9x_ZuWej4ItkWbyL2UZpRKsxvZ5Qa1G0TKZI3et9kWhGKzbQqEnQ3LjHGeir0luZzE5HJiQf2Yd8PJLfUAWlIk6f9eTpMlVX0aZsYgaLUsadv6vOsUcYdjjY/s320/100421_101.jpg" /> <div><br /><div><div><div><div><div><div><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; 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MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 214px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549981564010733906" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinzPSvStXE43oCRYI3F6IF2O3hVTzUMrNb3AeG2Me0tpTxV3fKq5Yh3aArrCWvE-AS2cvxxTy2XkKCZuMI57pc1Pqn4CWU9y224SJ6CCGUZbOyzbvjEfJoSFVEc-hdQynPhJPup6ioCTQ/s320/100420_020.jpg" /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 214px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549980646837667250" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiT5bxVLqY9mzGbiMXCmFH7gIg0X4_2ocHXVUG4hbPSLTQMjAetpNc-g0t3RiQGd4ditDaN-vmTUzSCoXcXsCJQpEIS4gj-mSb5XdsNqiebGfU0uJiMPFobIPdohq5B_UdLu8gKKz0olnE/s320/100420_019.jpg" /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 214px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549980639508001074" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjCK5CSfSmb7a4BUTEsZ9sXvhTTcLcATZruoWSNnVPSirIwlCRL0enLQmZIRYKTvEbhxFywAAYQspJwhNeUQCr1TG_DJoyZqkp3Cre73-80Gmp-4Cyx6XTZUWO0IZLyk8mJOKxm4FQQ1fM/s320/100420_011.jpg" /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 214px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549980633211146722" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgUpPLgAA4Y0IoVapJGvzNZskHpzIUprCcXghH7QT4CVYC22R9rIm00eUWYEPVDF4_fiEf82hL2uorA8MIAt0d8PCO_qRjZplc4S6NB0MET-dnELFRGBw_WMDmd1aBSRCsaFIh1Ru7YNZ8/s320/100420_009.jpg" /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 214px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549980630131886738" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjANbBjK0H9uZoVoqIal5EHKpwwM7R8fcyg0BVj84CAQb2G09SnKSS-SqrB1hxkawoY7TjsUz0QdZwN28L171j9QDzEKm6Swe2lelEI797Efq707ao9meHqSZKaFj6rEEuZ91bg9MJuLCA/s320/100420_007.jpg" />This is a journey, and despite all the hardship and pain, I would still go for it, because I would never want my journey to be a wholly flat one.<br /><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 287px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549982057354113650" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiyRLfgKlP5qwaFZk7O-1MGV5exPWxmq60opGXYWzHi0uTAfyLaMO-PkiEHhETUHD6xULWKWYEJmrcoSyk78fjSxVSKds1OtOwDk3CiuENevrL0b_KygjpnKurLzWMAjYJ6onyWI9adtB8/s320/100420_008.jpg" /></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-79124350409479022272010-12-11T07:38:00.000-08:002010-12-11T07:52:06.297-08:00佳音<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiT1_ebsRBmI_rRyttU96uxXaJF8Uh3PtK6SWvb8Id2WFh_ILoXwQLS3o9Ex8XPgXLc97IHtP1Po7h7Ujhx3rT2j25mSrxP_PCzsb0B7t4EYbdQ1raG1oOeAzr1l_0N-8_XlRsZTnxkxw0/s1600/NZZ.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549450381426335474" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 192px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiT1_ebsRBmI_rRyttU96uxXaJF8Uh3PtK6SWvb8Id2WFh_ILoXwQLS3o9Ex8XPgXLc97IHtP1Po7h7Ujhx3rT2j25mSrxP_PCzsb0B7t4EYbdQ1raG1oOeAzr1l_0N-8_XlRsZTnxkxw0/s320/NZZ.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div><em><span style="font-size:85%;">Moon and stars went off<br />Rising sun emerge slowly<br />There my flowers blooming, how adorable<br /></span></em></div><div><em><span style="font-size:85%;">I sent you off with smile<br />Morning sunshine embraces me<br />Gentle breeze convey a message of pleasure<br />Those birds cheering I am happy<br /></span></em></div><div><em><span style="font-size:85%;">Maybe they don’t know<br />What’s so pleasing<br /></span></em><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_ckGCFuPcBboaU8OqDwqRVWoxZBYSJuhfmFNwvkNpUF-dZ3sjsFLvHE3dcoYjWLZmD2tufRwEtemOKpUsYH6_VLA92R2fdxvkHtMyoYd4EjwSFgRClc_DYuLE5C45CZl2ZfTlf23LOFA/s1600/nz1.JPG"><em><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549450367210504418" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_ckGCFuPcBboaU8OqDwqRVWoxZBYSJuhfmFNwvkNpUF-dZ3sjsFLvHE3dcoYjWLZmD2tufRwEtemOKpUsYH6_VLA92R2fdxvkHtMyoYd4EjwSFgRClc_DYuLE5C45CZl2ZfTlf23LOFA/s320/nz1.JPG" border="0" /></em></a><em><span style="font-size:85%;">Sun sets and downs, flowers flourish and wither,<br />They remain, nothing lasts<br /></span></em></div><div><em><span style="font-size:85%;">It is me who is carefree still<br /></span></em></div><div><span style="font-size:85%;"><em>With the wind, looking forward till you return<br />In the air, sketching figure of your face</em><br /><br /></span></div><div><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">星星月亮不见啦 太阳冉冉升起中 </span></div><div><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">我的花儿也在争艳 啊 多么可爱</span></div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiSb2WKyvfhtP6BklLAcrsDTqD6yzyjLGMlNf5bEoSjcTIdcJUnsewm3CJ-eoXIrH81GjJ3vpWzDxdTIbuhT6AXTm2dbcq02mi9-iWzCaLaLNrhUy7w0BxmM4iTX-ZMvV3bv6mdKdu4mHY/s1600/NZ.JPG"><span style="font-size:85%;"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549450361422119458" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiSb2WKyvfhtP6BklLAcrsDTqD6yzyjLGMlNf5bEoSjcTIdcJUnsewm3CJ-eoXIrH81GjJ3vpWzDxdTIbuhT6AXTm2dbcq02mi9-iWzCaLaLNrhUy7w0BxmM4iTX-ZMvV3bv6mdKdu4mHY/s320/NZ.JPG" border="0" /></span></a><span style="font-size:85%;"><br />带着微笑送别你 迎接我的是晨曦</span></div><div><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">风儿在轻轻地吹 散发着幸福气息</span></div><div><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">鸟儿也自顾欢呼歌唱 我不禁开怀笑</span></div><div><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">也许他们不明白 有什么值得如此喜悦啊</span></div><div><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">日出日落 花开花谢 不变依旧 没什么不朽</span></div><div><br /><span style="font-size:85%;"><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiA1SIlxX-638DtjNwiVLxXoSh7ycMqXaiI7R9C3g1xk7lq3UmPwRLWNwXFAoPa-c37Akyw6mFvR6IsMwvSoZZ3QKcr1DYB0jbTG4wpyNePe5hC4NwyPRpyYjIbOaB5pi6yHLCURIcisxY/s1600/NZ+chair.JPG"><span style="font-size:85%;"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549450374740980386" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiA1SIlxX-638DtjNwiVLxXoSh7ycMqXaiI7R9C3g1xk7lq3UmPwRLWNwXFAoPa-c37Akyw6mFvR6IsMwvSoZZ3QKcr1DYB0jbTG4wpyNePe5hC4NwyPRpyYjIbOaB5pi6yHLCURIcisxY/s320/NZ+chair.JPG" border="0" /></span></a></div>是我太过地傻气 只顾悠哉闲哉地</span></div><div><span style="font-size:85%;"></span></div><div><span style="font-size:85%;"></span></div><div><span style="font-size:85%;">在风中静待你的佳音</span></div><div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiA1SIlxX-638DtjNwiVLxXoSh7ycMqXaiI7R9C3g1xk7lq3UmPwRLWNwXFAoPa-c37Akyw6mFvR6IsMwvSoZZ3QKcr1DYB0jbTG4wpyNePe5hC4NwyPRpyYjIbOaB5pi6yHLCURIcisxY/s1600/NZ+chair.JPG"><span style="font-size:85%;"></span></a></div></div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiA1SIlxX-638DtjNwiVLxXoSh7ycMqXaiI7R9C3g1xk7lq3UmPwRLWNwXFAoPa-c37Akyw6mFvR6IsMwvSoZZ3QKcr1DYB0jbTG4wpyNePe5hC4NwyPRpyYjIbOaB5pi6yHLCURIcisxY/s1600/NZ+chair.JPG"><span style="font-size:85%;"></span></a></div><div><span style="font-size:85%;"></span></div><div><span style="font-size:85%;"></span></div><div><span style="font-size:85%;"><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiA1SIlxX-638DtjNwiVLxXoSh7ycMqXaiI7R9C3g1xk7lq3UmPwRLWNwXFAoPa-c37Akyw6mFvR6IsMwvSoZZ3QKcr1DYB0jbTG4wpyNePe5hC4NwyPRpyYjIbOaB5pi6yHLCURIcisxY/s1600/NZ+chair.JPG"><span style="font-size:85%;"></span></a> </div>在空中描绘你的轮廓<br /></div></span><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiA1SIlxX-638DtjNwiVLxXoSh7ycMqXaiI7R9C3g1xk7lq3UmPwRLWNwXFAoPa-c37Akyw6mFvR6IsMwvSoZZ3QKcr1DYB0jbTG4wpyNePe5hC4NwyPRpyYjIbOaB5pi6yHLCURIcisxY/s1600/NZ+chair.JPG"><span style="font-size:85%;"></span></a></div><div><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-size:85%;"><br /><br /><br /></span></div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiA1SIlxX-638DtjNwiVLxXoSh7ycMqXaiI7R9C3g1xk7lq3UmPwRLWNwXFAoPa-c37Akyw6mFvR6IsMwvSoZZ3QKcr1DYB0jbTG4wpyNePe5hC4NwyPRpyYjIbOaB5pi6yHLCURIcisxY/s1600/NZ+chair.JPG"></a></div>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-33435947150865600982010-12-10T08:31:00.000-08:002010-12-10T08:50:56.520-08:00我眼中的美女 Beauty, as defined by my eyes and heart<div><div><div><div><div><div><div><div>我似乎察觉到,自己和朋友对美女的定义,很不一样。我倾向于喜欢那些散发着自然气息,不刻意讨好他人而恬静淡泊,浑身充满灵气的美女。你可以想象吗?她本就是大自然的产物,出水芙蓉,你会不忍将她置入世俗红尘中,她的美是浑然天成的,她更没考虑过自己给外界呈现出来的相貌是如何,这一切是多么的自然呵,她有着灵动的双眼,即使她没什么太大的表情,却依旧让你感觉到她是多么地活灵活现。对了,就是这样了。</div><br /><div>然而,如此我说漂亮的,朋友会说,“啊!怎会?一点都不时尚,很像村姑,不hot吔。”哈,正如我也不会欣赏他们眼中那种充满时代感的女星一样。<br /><br />朋友说某明星太漂亮了,比如台湾某当红名模,朋友说她情绪智商超好的,气质不在话下,各花入各眼吧,可能不是我喜欢的类型吧,我只觉得她的情绪智商再好,说话再怎么温文儒雅,都看起来像是在讨好整个娱乐圈,努力维持形象,建立美好无暇的形象,她是属于世俗的,她走在潮流尖端,她知道自己肩负重任,引领着人们的审美观,所以她更小心翼翼地,深怕自己稍不留意出了点瑕疵,她的这种压力,让她本来的美失色了点。 </div><div><br />总得来说,美女,本来就是美的,不讨好他人,让自身散发内在原有的光彩,会让她更美。只是,在现金社会,我怀疑有多少人和我有同样想法?美容护肤品的广告词老是试图俘虏人心:世上只有懒女人,没有丑女人;言下之意,就是鼓倡女人得多用护肤品,多化点妆。但不知怎么的,我就是觉得美女要是花了太多心思在外表上,较刻意了,就没那么美了。那就好比挥洒舞艺的女孩,我更喜欢看到一个自自然然、轻松自在表演的舞者,而非一个在表演当中,老是顾虑着自己姿态美不美、动作优不优雅的舞者。<br /><br />论起美,也得牵引到整体的协调性一事。你看吧,有些女孩,明明五官不怎么出色,可是所有五官配在一起,却出奇地好看;反观你看某人,她眼睛明明很大啊,鼻子也很挺的,为何整张脸无法让我用“美”一字来形容呢?<br /><br />曾经有一段时期,我十分留意中国体坛。印象中,其实中国体坛也出了不少的美女,出名的有体操好手刘璇等,而其中有一位象棋世界冠军,叫诸宸,我从电视上看到她,就对她印象深刻,她是美女,从容娴静、温和知性的美女,我记得她就是那种,我想继续再看多几眼的美女,因为让人感觉很舒服,而且她言谈举止间散发出的气质,很讨人喜欢就对了。<br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549095756219707762" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 214px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBRJNSo_PpeuD8JMioeyv9n17bjiahGGjnYC37FauwYrGidUsYYYDf43caIif6ugVTb3YHlaLSzLpY8ICulHVKZenBdlY543C4Gb-DAJIP4A_iWA5tlHeGa2rqkwag-5COIn5xo1M4XZw/s320/zhu+chen+3.jpg" border="0" /><br />我本身不懂得象棋,可是却不自由主地喜欢上这一名棋手。棋手很多时候都在聚精会神地思索着棋盘战术,而一个人专注的神情能使你觉得她带出一种潜在性无比灵动的感觉,很是吸引人的。诸宸,在电视上、相片上,你可能觉得她五官不尽完美啊,可是同时你却又不知怎么地感觉到,她的真人应该更美的,相片所呈现的素质的不可尽信。棋术以外,最让我啧啧称奇,欣赏不已的是她那份面对爱情的勇敢,一个传统的中国女孩,因为男方的真诚和自己的勇于信仰,敢于跨越语言、文化、宗教、世俗观念上种种的阻碍而远嫁去卡塔尔这么一个回教国,嫁给的就是那名20世纪阿拉伯最佳棋手。在一次访问中,诸宸被问到对于身边人的大力阻止这段爱情,她是怎么看待的,我记得那时在电视中,看到她即使不忿,语气却依旧从容地阐述,那种态度,好像就是自身很自然的个性使然的,很叫人欣赏。关于她的卡塔尔象棋王子的爱情故事,看了也很叫人激赏,请浏览这里:<a href="http://sports.sohu.com/20070516/n250042233.shtml">http://sports.sohu.com/20070516/n250042233.shtml</a><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549095747639395714" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 215px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgxi7FKhhanzjdgoNKXQdgc414Ss7SN3R0_Nwb0RhKjMjPm5J4ICbK2TRWCEeWenrkdCNXcI1qBNu4FFagrq6EbpHHiLx_QdGAMFVu5uVteHiHpHjI5jMcqHA90UloYjnePEXDND__96zc/s320/zhu+chen+003.jpg" border="0" /><br />再说一位美女吧,可能不怎么有名,但也是我喜欢的,叫徐路,一名演员,她原是练芭蕾舞的,所以有人说她演技不够纯熟,不管怎么说,她的美就是吸引了我。</div><div><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549095748559133394" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 275px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHY6hnLAgIhK6SENfDZCiHdQOIjTD449iFnxp1CVWttrreMCaB0NeF9UjftW-MN9ktYLnvT-QDdojuIuiW85YUugbM-QGBRxaJ4YB6O99u6_ybFzJDKbHH5pWegrnJQ8dqcQsewz-GgBs/s320/xu+lu.jpg" border="0" /></div><div>说了两个东方的,西方的呢?嗯,其实我觉得洋人当中,就属俄罗斯女孩最美了,但一时之间很难说出一个我认识的有名的,很少留意西方的影视圈啊,嗯,要说的话,我喜欢英国的Rachel Weisz,我觉得她是很有智慧的,很是聪颖的。<br /></div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNsZYsRDkmElPJoOFCvYAur_ljSbU8ufklE0bbpNyJ5KGGZTbwswTDe0IRNOHfEb9g_MdbqlLNQGwemhE3jAZaju7YJn11bD0f5AyMT3B8iu7oEmf2xKTKHHc5bGDRY1d5JUPjIPBQLbU/s1600/20rachel_weisz.jpg"></a><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549095742282970786" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 283px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi3i5ZVUbhCja5i6xxrXshu7vh_4BiASsrDD9TXfMsW1jBRzkwEHskiXWe8WXkD00OJTKUWWqm90tjbbyWn-T1JG0mhqTXnXBzqMLnRgYUTtvrSn7Fx4k7xm1Y3PuPNZ4EQQhSTTG-uz9A/s320/20rachel_weisz.jpg" border="0" /><br />无论如何,其实女孩要懂得维护自己的美,就好,欣赏自己独有的美。这世上真是各花入各眼,你不必担心,总有人感受到你的美的。说起这事,其实给我,我只想要一个人觉得我美,就够了,其他人觉得丑都没关系,哈,那么一个人,就是你以后的另一半了。<br /><br />记得我在纽西兰的时候,和身边同样来自亚洲的女性朋友聊天,她们都说羡慕西方女性的长睫毛,深明而若雕塑的美好五官,可是其实当你接触一些西方男性的时候,你会从他们眼光和言行探出一丝爱慕的讯息,其实他们欣赏我们这不同的美的,而我们自己怎么不欣赏呢? </div></div></div></div></div></div></div>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-12919757689368040752010-12-07T19:27:00.000-08:002010-12-10T01:44:37.330-08:00Fairy tale<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwbsFItguxN_DmdJ2qcmfTCrldsepZZdc9NnnqDZJ1m10ITQev4ZkMhJTp8OJOapA3EqTTA5Px5Qkk3ccvoFdGQ1bAEJIF29Mc9bxqx1M-iQuEjWSShihi9jqZefgFkfMBTaNYwuJDmw0/s1600/31124_397374436187_684696187_4447069_1134627_n.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5548208144549241506" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwbsFItguxN_DmdJ2qcmfTCrldsepZZdc9NnnqDZJ1m10ITQev4ZkMhJTp8OJOapA3EqTTA5Px5Qkk3ccvoFdGQ1bAEJIF29Mc9bxqx1M-iQuEjWSShihi9jqZefgFkfMBTaNYwuJDmw0/s320/31124_397374436187_684696187_4447069_1134627_n.jpg" /></a><br />When we were little, we talked among each other, “given a choice, you want to be a boy? Or girl?”. Some girls say, “boy! Because a boy doesn’t need to deliver a baby, my mom told me it’s really painful!”<br /><br />When I am grown up, we talked among each other, “when one day, you get married and give born to a baby, do you want a baby boy or girl?”<br /><br />“Hmm … I think I will really love my husband, so I want a boy, to watch his childhood again. The boy will resemble the one I love, then I will see the little one and the big one play together and bully the mom – me! Imagine, this is a lovely scene.<br /><br />“Yeah, I have already conceived of some lovely names for the kids … just that the surname does change.”<br /><br />When I am grown further, we talked among each other, “Is getting married and bearing kids part of the life path that everyone must go through?”<br /><br />“I am ok if I don’t get married. I will be fine if I don’t have my own kids; but I hope I will have.”<br /><br />If I have a kid then, … “my child, mom will bring you to travel around, and you will learn the best from natural setting, it’s perfectly fine if you don’t do well in formal education, can you hear the sound of wind? Can you hear the sparrows twittering? These made up the best symphony for you. ”<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVeUmHYogMYAR15eRIIDbza2efYBMr24hxHNoqznOtFUSOv9a2a5IOUha9C7Ruu0UJxRTWtSI9RHV14DxNMOyfcMbGypIagCGKj6OWwlv2weHWL-Q6PaL92DJxqIP8umkS3oML4KBx5OQ/s1600/il_fullxfull_86280312.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 286px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5548208476897966994" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVeUmHYogMYAR15eRIIDbza2efYBMr24hxHNoqznOtFUSOv9a2a5IOUha9C7Ruu0UJxRTWtSI9RHV14DxNMOyfcMbGypIagCGKj6OWwlv2weHWL-Q6PaL92DJxqIP8umkS3oML4KBx5OQ/s320/il_fullxfull_86280312.jpg" /></a>“That day you argued with our neighbour kid, you insisted that sun is closer to us in the morning because it was bigger in the morning and turns smaller as day goes by; but the neighbour kid insisted that sun is further to us in the morning because it was cool in the morning and the heat increases only when day goes by. Your mom was speechless and she got your dad to come and intervene :) ” "but who is your dad? :P "<br /><br />“You don’t have to do well in studies, what I want from you is to be kind-hearted and happy always. Don’t get upset when you get hurt .. you will be fine.”<br /><br />I am curious for my future. I guess if I am still by myself when I grow older, maybe I will end up staying in an isolated rural village, with the village kids, old folks … and spend the rest of my life.<br /><br />P/S: I must admit that I am quite capable in daydreaming.leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-9243944323603830332010-10-31T09:44:00.000-07:002010-11-07T05:40:03.347-08:00Can you let go of your past?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcLk2fyopTrnlD8pM0AJ9ACeiTlbmUO0MzvNLqjLeudri2l_rBVrHkas7nrsFu_wa9ZWZYWBGiH26vVrFO_Vk9mV6jZz5Ozzuqf1lMYX-PULPZGqb23iI2fvu5RX0G0OnFBDJnIQ757yc/s1600/200841919540165_2.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhcLk2fyopTrnlD8pM0AJ9ACeiTlbmUO0MzvNLqjLeudri2l_rBVrHkas7nrsFu_wa9ZWZYWBGiH26vVrFO_Vk9mV6jZz5Ozzuqf1lMYX-PULPZGqb23iI2fvu5RX0G0OnFBDJnIQ757yc/s200/200841919540165_2.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536802005619960194" /></a><br /><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">Is there reincarnation? I do believe there is. Let’s not go into questioning about its existence now, in fact, isn’t everything in the universe going in a recurrent process of birth and death, to grow and perish? Again and again, even if it is totally gone, I’d rather believe that it switches to exist in another deviate form, or turns into being in “nothingness” with a lurked potential of rebirth to evolve.</span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">Let’s forget about matters before birth and after death. I regard this present life as being divided into various phases of a cycle. Physiological development marks different stages of life in progressing form<span lang="EN-GB" style="color:black;">; changes in thinking system and affectionate content can be deemed as spiritual reformation, to certain extent.</span></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="color:black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"><b>If there is really reincarnation, then the merit would be to get one regenerates his life or to be reborn</b></span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;"><b>, more precisely, to be able to rely on a new body, forsake those sinful history and bad habits ever, only if one forgets about the past and its accompanied encumbrance, he can recreate the life he belongs to.</b></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">Sometimes, it is common that our mind and action isn’t consistent to our will; <b>the more you want to let it go, the harder you are to let go of it; the more you wish to hold it tight, the more shaky your hand is and you can’t grasp it..</b></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">Those unpleasant past impede your progress, and you still exist in this impure world with a myriad temptations - those human factors and the environment around, repeatedly remind you of your past. The more you want to forget, the more you remember. It seems that the only way to reform, is to apply a brand new shell of body, be bestowed a new life<span style="color:black;">.</span></span></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 12.9pt" class="MsoNormal"><span style="color:black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">We are mediocre; we find the invisible world not detectable, so at this moment, what is crucial at least is to <strong>manage rightfully the present life with your goodwill,</strong> even if the polluted external world remains unchanged, even if the harm caused from your past has become an irreversible wound.</span></span></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 12.9pt" class="MsoNormal"><span style="color:black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">…………………………………………………………….<!--?xml:namespace prefix = o /--><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 12.9pt" class="MsoNormal"><span style="color:black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">Actually I really hope you can forgo those unpleasant past and step forward to your reformation. I do really hope that you don’t adapt the existing and deeply ingrained self-concept to constrain your predestination. Actually I think you can do it. I know you’ve been feeling troubled, but what about your willpower? If you wish, you can try to listen to your heart; you can try to grant a meaningfulness to interpret your new life.</span></span></span></p><p style="LINE-HEIGHT: 12.9pt" class="MsoNormal"><span style="color:black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:small;">If now you are not you, you’re given a chance to freely delineate your ideal image, do you see the real self that you long to be? You keep visualizing, perhaps one day, you get more and more syncretic with the ideal self with such a harmony!</span></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 12.9pt;font-size:small;" class="Apple-style-span">Those who erred, those who got hurt, those who suffered mentally, those who’ve wasted time in unexamined lives, can they reform? And, when they are so much longing for a new life, can we put aside our prejudice towards them? Shall we not apply our very personal, </span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 17px;font-size:small;" class="Apple-style-span">judgemental</span><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 12.9pt;font-size:small;" class="Apple-style-span"> view on them?</span></span></b><span style="LINE-HEIGHT: 12.9pt;font-family:'Trebuchet MS';font-size:9;color:black;" class="Apple-style-span"><o:p></o:p></span></p>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-38744575955629109332010-10-24T01:58:00.000-07:002010-11-04T01:54:23.572-07:00轮回与今生浅谈姑且不去争论有没有轮回这一事,其实天地万物何不都在灭了又生、生了又灭?生生息息,即使亡了,而后也可能是换了另一种形式存在,或者在无的状态下埋伏着重生的因子。 <div><br /></div><div>不说生以前、死之后的事,其实你也可把人的此生看作多个循环阶段,生理机构上的进化改变标本着从形式上而言的人生不同阶段,思想系统和情义认知的改变乃是人的灵魂上某种程度上的转换。</div><div><br /></div><div>我是相信有轮回的,虽然有人不信。如果真有轮回之事,那么轮回之妙在于,人可以重获新生,更重要的是,可以仰赖一副新的躯体,丢弃曾有的罪业习气,只有完全忘了过去种种所带来的负累,人才能重新创造自己的人生。</div><div><br /></div><div>是这样的,我们有时候身不由己,念不由己。想放下的、不堪的、阻碍你前进的过去缠绕着你的念头,而你的身,依旧处在这似乎污染依旧的尘世,周遭的人为因素与环境,在在提醒着你的过去。你越想放下,却越放不下。看来唯有套用另一个躯体,被赐予另一个生命,你才真正能够重生。</div><div><br /></div><div>凡夫如我们,无法探索前世来生的世界,那么眼前的,就是处理好这一生了。你信不信轮回都好,你都要试着把这一生操之于手,即使外在的花花世界不变,即使尘世的习气依旧浑浊,即使过去对你的伤害已成了你不可撤回的烙印。</div><div><br /></div><div>其实我多么希望你可以抛开过去的包袱,重新做人。我多么希望你不以既定的、牢不可破的自我概念来束缚着自己的造化。其实,我觉得你可以的。我知道身边的人与事,环境的缠绕让你放不下过去,那么,你的自我意念呢,只要你愿意,你可以试试看清你的心,你可以试着赐予自己的生命重新的意义。</div><div><br /></div><div>假设你不是你,我让你任意在梦境里、脑海里描绘你心目中理想的自己的意象,你看到那个真正想要成为的自己吗?你一直这样观想啊观想,说不定后来有一天,你真的和那个理想自我越来越融合了,世间的纷纷扰扰,你也会坦然看之,因为你是那多么圆融的个体啊。</div><div><br /></div><div>那些犯过错的人,那些受过情伤的人,那些受过心理创伤的人,那些曾经浑噩度日的人,那些伤过他人的人;你们可以重生吗?我们,在他们渴望重生的时候,可不可以不让他们的过去被我们的偏见、己见诠译,而后套在他们的身上?</div>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-5357354103498418602010-09-16T00:13:00.000-07:002010-11-27T00:21:49.861-08:00One’s expectation hurts the other<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >We are social animals; people perceive us that way, and that is how we portray ourselves to the outside world, to some extent.</span></span></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >The drinker wants to stop binge drinking, but one day, late night though, even when he comes home in a sober state, his wife throws out such words, “I know! You must have drunk a lot! Simply useless! Wimp!” So out of resentment towards the mistrust from his dear one, he really goes out to drink.</span></span></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >I watched a movie (Wong Kar Wai’s 2046). The girl in the movie fell into a sex relationship with the guy and she did really love him. Everyday after they had sex, he would leave her a cash note without giving good reasoning for doing so. The girl kept the notes in a box, cherished them and counted them to know how many nights they had spent together. Until a day the guy had enough of such superficial relationship, he ceased all sorts of interaction with the girl. He gave her money, he indicated that their relationship is merely a transaction and she only needed money from that. The girl laughed decadently, her heart bled but she just accepted the money, more money.</span></span></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >How a child ends up to be is also determined by the parents’ expectation towards him/her … I suppose.</span></span></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >To protect one's dignity, why do people still act in the way people think they are? Why the drinker continues to drink? Why not the girl throws all the cash notes back to the guy? Are they are losing the “self”, conforming to others’ expectation?</span></span></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >In the other extreme case, one ended up committing suicide partly as a result of being triggered by someone’s intriguing words. The close one expected that he wouldn’t dare enough to take the final road to ruin his life, but who knows, he tragically acted against other’s expectation and proved others wrong.</span></span></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >Do you have faith on the other who wants to make a change on himself/herself? We don’t know the outcome of this person’s effort.....</span></span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: verdana; font-size: small; ">I always believe that there’s no force to determine the future but it is the present doing to fix the future. If you anticipate a negative outcome and give awful feedback on someone’s next action, chances are he will get frustrated by your mistrust and remains a wrongdoing, or he may be triggered to act against you and do a good one to prove himself. Hmm .. but if you always have a goodwill towards that person, assume his capability to make a substantial change, I don’t see much possibility of his purposeful action doing the undesirable due to you.</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><b>We really don</b></span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><b>’</b></span></span><span lang="EN-GB"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: small;"><b>t understand enough the person in front of us, his personality may set him into going through a rather predetermined route, but still, his future is yet to be determined, as long as he develops a wilful intention to change, don’t assume subjectively on how thing is gonna be for someone especially by assuming negatively. </b></span></span><o:p></o:p></span></p>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-8322447367202073892010-09-13T15:52:00.000-07:002011-01-13T15:54:38.531-08:00目标和成功<span class="Apple-style-span" style=" line-height: 17px; font-family:'BBAlpha Sans', 'Prelude Medium', 'S60 Sans', Tahoma, Verdana, Arial, sans-serif;font-size:13px;"><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span lang="ZH-CN" style="line-height: 17px; font-family:SimSun;"><span style="line-height: normal; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">我是一个很没有目标的人。</span></span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span style="line-height: normal; font-family:Times New Roman;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span style="line-height: normal; "><span lang="ZH-CN" style="line-height: 20px; font-family:SimSun;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">据算命师说,我三十岁以前都误打误撞,没有人生目标地过活,其实人生规划真的那么重要吗</span></span><span style="line-height: normal; font-family:Times New Roman;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">?</span></span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="line-height: 20px; font-family:SimSun;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">这阶段是摸索的,任何事皆愿意放胆尝试的。</span></span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span style="line-height: normal; font-family:Times New Roman;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span style="line-height: normal; "><span lang="ZH-CN" style="line-height: 20px; font-family:SimSun;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">像我这种人,怎可能时时刻刻都清楚自己要的是什么、下一步怎么走</span></span><span style="line-height: normal; font-family:Times New Roman;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">?</span></span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span style="line-height: normal; font-family:Times New Roman;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span lang="ZH-CN" style="line-height: 17px; font-family:SimSun;"><span style="line-height: normal; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">我只希望一直都有事做,没事做会让我超不耐烦,而且一直有新奇的事让我去发掘。</span></span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span style="line-height: normal; font-family:Times New Roman;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span lang="ZH-CN" style="line-height: 17px; font-family:SimSun;"><span style="line-height: normal; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">有些人从一开始就清楚自己那单一的专长和喜好,心无旁骛地就一直往这条路走下去,恰好他周遭的环境也很容许他这么做,恰恰他处于的现实社会正需要他这方面的专长。可悲也可喜的是,我不是这种人。</span></span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span style="line-height: normal; font-family:Times New Roman;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span lang="ZH-CN" style="line-height: 17px; font-family:SimSun;"><span style="line-height: normal; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">可悲的是,我会经常感到一点的怀才不遇,然而我没资格这么想,因为我也不清楚自己有何才,即使在做工,还偶尔会感到自己的价值观和整个社会的有出入。他们看我从未为自己设下目标,似乎浑浑噩噩似的。</span></span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span style="line-height: normal; font-family:Times New Roman;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span lang="ZH-CN" style="line-height: 17px; font-family:SimSun;"><span style="line-height: normal; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">可喜的是,我对那充满无限可能的未来有着憧憬,我相信现在只是时不予我,这世界上大器晚成之士大有人在。我没有目标,因为我正在摸索着自己未被开发的潜能,我还没被定型,比起已经定型的了,我具有的伸缩性更大。见步行步吧,我有一天会找到答案的。</span></span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span style="line-height: normal; font-family:Times New Roman;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;"> </span></span></p><p style="line-height: 17px; margin-top: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; "><span lang="ZH-CN" style="line-height: 17px; font-family:SimSun;"><span style="line-height: normal; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: medium;">后来我发现,无奈的迷惘和对未知的期待只是一线之差。</span></span></span></p></span>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-63057661022466958862010-08-08T00:26:00.000-07:002010-11-27T00:29:26.535-08:00Blog writing<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">I used to write every personal thing of myself in my msn space but msn announced that such service will be withdrawn, and I find that I will feel sad to let all those blog entries gone, somehow I am just so fond of reading what have been written previously.</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-GB" style="mso-ansi-language:EN-GB">Okay, from now onwards, will use this blog, put everything into here where it used to be meant for travel stuff only. <span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></p>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-68944430868283560572010-08-01T02:15:00.000-07:002010-10-04T07:11:01.839-07:00Overly Delayed updates .........Back to home. Committed to something (Besides some serious stuff, social meetings, days spent with my beloved family, I need to devote some time for daydreaming). I should have recorded down my travel in a nice, orderly manner for future reminiscence but I am committed to something right now. Never mind, my memory is very good in taking things meant to be remembered. Never mind, travel is something very personal, along the journey, only I know how the place I visited and the person I met meant to me. People you’ve met, places you’ve visited and all the encounters you’ve had made up your personal travel log which is a unique one.<br /><br /><strong>When I have no time to record things in words, when I couldn't catch the scenes into my camera, I knew I have stored them in my mind.</strong><br /><br />....................................until mid-2011.<br /><br />当我没时间用文字记录旅程,当我来不及用照相机摄景捕影,我知道我已经将所有的这些烙印在脑海了。leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-22334433325812106892010-08-01T01:31:00.000-07:002010-10-09T22:23:22.764-07:00A Walk, a Talk, a Thought<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhRX_adydaKbSvmwe_LQxv8l4fDRbvopgiZacnCrxOtjZ-vG10A_-TOaZLUfuXqOyS1LwzTQlHbvzL7cIMGhwqxvEhzQsBKJZ-2OOV_yoE5Q1KV3hdvfFNE302I3kkTw517lf83llwLLxo/s1600/DSCN2730.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5500357182694167586" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 150px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhRX_adydaKbSvmwe_LQxv8l4fDRbvopgiZacnCrxOtjZ-vG10A_-TOaZLUfuXqOyS1LwzTQlHbvzL7cIMGhwqxvEhzQsBKJZ-2OOV_yoE5Q1KV3hdvfFNE302I3kkTw517lf83llwLLxo/s200/DSCN2730.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaOSLBNqHIGOI-uaXwxM7GpobW938plxzUFmHWhHgks8ISy3cwoimC9L0YxYHuQjwKAG6BZjNt2DvjJDQGOUfSjoAAtVsghgeDv9Af22Ri7GcQ21a94qqSAoUpsY-yX6km2m98vlcKtq0/s1600/DSCN2720.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5500357181576170594" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 158px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaOSLBNqHIGOI-uaXwxM7GpobW938plxzUFmHWhHgks8ISy3cwoimC9L0YxYHuQjwKAG6BZjNt2DvjJDQGOUfSjoAAtVsghgeDv9Af22Ri7GcQ21a94qqSAoUpsY-yX6km2m98vlcKtq0/s200/DSCN2720.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHgqJTAVLF7nqSbPSoed2L6i10hS5Pr2epZsqfsauNZW_hsACSQDbimioTnDjwykyTx5qTeJyUdm01g6p5kBUu901klUGVxXfg9BGJef4n5mrj1Cymvdwn8aypDWYuGYkwsQnagEojOYs/s1600/DSCN0008.JPG"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5500357174725935922" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 150px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 200px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHgqJTAVLF7nqSbPSoed2L6i10hS5Pr2epZsqfsauNZW_hsACSQDbimioTnDjwykyTx5qTeJyUdm01g6p5kBUu901klUGVxXfg9BGJef4n5mrj1Cymvdwn8aypDWYuGYkwsQnagEojOYs/s200/DSCN0008.JPG" border="0" /></a> In a fast-paced city, rarely do we have a chance to slow down and look into ourselves from within.<br /><br />Being away from the places I am familiar with to New Zealand, it means a lot to me. Well, this is the first European country I’ve been to, and when you are plumped into a new place, that implies a certain degree of unlearning about the practicability of one’s own culture, letting go of the social status, material possession, a stuck relationship or situation when you are in your own country. You are just about to start a new journey and to learn and view the world from a different perspective. It can be insightful yet exciting!<br /><br />Throughout my 6-months working holiday in New Zealand, I spent the most of my time in Franz Josef for about 4 months. Why I was here for that long? Haha, I’ve never planned for anything and it just happened that I have a “special connection” with this place? I was blown to here and stayed till mid autumn.<br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5500361242188929426" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 150px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmoGF7LHaVBpEAQ14CFYQ5c0JzE6b23DmJ6YrZLECkdcqAqc5Ld3Jyy1T8jFED98TyMe_-RUJJeK8xQ44SsBUnJ5y2nlIOc_GSxdAVl_zARqZPJJBFq35izyYtx9GRbWkaFp4ZcWgNR7Y/s200/DSCN0303.JPG" border="0" /><br />I love to walk around Franz Josef. Sometimes, I walked alone, sometimes, with a friend. When I am alone, I usually indulged myself in gazing at the glacier, feeling the natural surrounding, the gentle breeze, and then I would have a pleasing conversation to myself. I walked with my preferred pace and dreamt about the desired.<br /><br />When I was with a friend, I did enjoy the way we walked together and although some people just don’t talk much to you, but you would cherish the chance to walk alongside with someone and appreciate this acquaintance.<br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5500357172865315954" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 200px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 150px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwOZbeJ-3naA5hDO_WzXmJWmICVlxWR_k6Muzl4-AeClj7nay_PYteHynoV6Nz9ymOK4YKyDojGx4fdfkEhZGU-Y38-O0s5tqQSY8qOgzk0G-m3wOeeCNjYuCNLRPuIemcAMDjZStZ4VA/s200/DSCN0001.JPG" border="0" /><br />Shan is the Hong Kong girl whom I had most of the non-solitary walks with in Franz Josef. She is few years older than me and she is about to be a full-time roamer. We talked about life, love, the interpersonal relationship we had in the situational drama of Franz Josef Scenic Hotel, etc while walking along the farm road behind our lodge that gives us another stunning view of glacial mountains.<br /><br />I remember how we talked about love, I mean the romantic relationship of a couple. There is a saying, there are two things a couple should do before they decide to tie the knot: one is to cohabit, to stay together, the second is to travel together. One is to test the couple in dealing with the certainty (seeing your mate’s unchanged temperament) in life while the other is to test their ability to face the uncertainties together in life.<br /><br />To stay together, you get to know each other better in term of his or her character, predisposition of likes and dislikes in daily activities, his or her habit and so on. It’s not merely about having temporal fun while hanging out with him or her nor the first infatuated impression when meeting him or her. To travel together, it is another challenge to face. As the relationship proceeds, there might be some unexpected obstacles that happen. If those happen, are you going to hold her hand still to tackle all the undesirable things? Will you be able to tolerate or compromise when she has severe disagreement with you? When both of you started to have different agenda and different destinations to go, will you two calm down and sort these out?<br /><br />.................. I am 25, still enjoy being free and solitude is a state when I am most truthful to myself. People come in and out and pass me by, some stay silently for me, some leave unnoticed, my heart is drifting, so I am still a little uncertain :)</div></div>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8596555560990982735.post-49716319727764182972010-08-01T01:24:00.000-07:002011-05-31T18:44:02.907-07:00我喜欢离别 I like *Separation<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGZbR8gdfvI-EcKp8NK-8vde0jq2Vb93c74b-Q_HRzmaDuTU7bXbCri8Hmv5mRYA5oWezM_fFpthas4LwAYhAXK9b2N7ZuE9X-BhyphenhyphenVYbJMYcIJSgS1c_QkeitLL_pm6Y2Gg5V6I5pTrUg/s1600/DSCN0267.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5500355255045299730" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGZbR8gdfvI-EcKp8NK-8vde0jq2Vb93c74b-Q_HRzmaDuTU7bXbCri8Hmv5mRYA5oWezM_fFpthas4LwAYhAXK9b2N7ZuE9X-BhyphenhyphenVYbJMYcIJSgS1c_QkeitLL_pm6Y2Gg5V6I5pTrUg/s320/DSCN0267.JPG" /></a> I like separation, I like the intense feeling that developed only when you were about to leave. We only learnt to cherish each other at that moment.<br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgEk2C4-wecU6ZhQ2WbpH19f2Xh7wNw2W8J85x0aj9BLNM7ao5u0PJL-Hk9zBAZKJciRpN5RXfjlqBPIj6eUU4M1ZMCYekoFO9-9kIeVZ7YyPSlKQnmYgW-ZIRsFMG_vNMqkmt6DHihP2k/s1600/DSCN0267.JPG"></a><br /><div>我喜欢别离,因为唯有在离别之时,我们才会显得比过往更珍惜彼此。从来对离别之愁没有很深的感受,反倒是对那份离别时浓得化不开的情感感触极深。至于和你不怎么在乎的人的“离别”呢,呵呵,那何来离别之说?因为你们都貌合神离,本来就不曾实质上地在一起过。因此我真正喜欢的,是和自己在乎的人的离别。</div><div><br />那时候,离别之时,我们可能是比往常多话,更多了些以往不会轻易说出来的心底话;也可能,我们无言胜有言,只是默默地感受那离别的气氛,或是默默地望着对方,或是以拥抱来诉说千言万语;再可能,我们或许闻到了空气中的离别之愁,而为了化解那份伤感,不知是有意还是无意地拼命说些废话。不管怎么样,我们唯有到离别时才知道,原来我们之间的情谊是如此美好的,因此我有点舍不得你走,因此那一刻,我多么希望往后或许会和我疏于联络的你会一直过得好好的,心中突然有好多好多对你的祝福涌上来。<br /><br />人是很奇怪的,平常和你一起吃喝玩乐都习惯了,和你一起聊个天花乱坠已是家常便饭,感觉日子一天一天这样,没什么特别,只有在你要走的时候,我才认清自己以后得从生活中将一部分的你给抽离的事实,虽然另一部分的你还是能够存在在我思念的记忆里,可我一想到我们要分开了,感觉就有点纠结,似乎因以前对你不够好而感到遗憾,又或者后悔来不及好好了解你。<br /><br />或许以后我们会少了联系,而多了思念;也或许我们会少了联系,亦少了挂念而逐渐淡忘彼此;再或许我们会因思念而多了联系。不管怎么样,你我都知道,未来的路上,大家会遇到好多人,他们或许和我擦肩而过,或许在下一刻变成我的朋友或知己,一直陪伴我的身边人或许是那个新认识的他。而过往的你呢,在我心目中的地位或许因为这些人的出现而稍微有了变动,可我记忆中善良可爱的你从来没变过。<br /><br />我还是很喜欢和怀念那一刻围绕在我们离别之时的浓浓情感。</div></div>leetianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04684693767398795776noreply@blogger.com0